My Fall Recruitment Thread

[Ggirl617]

Originally Posted by AzTheta

This.

There are many red flags in your conflicts and doubts, your ups and downs, your highs and lows, which you are posting to the internet, where they will Live Forever. This no longer appears to be merely about Eyeliner.

We cannot give you any sort of reliable or valid feedback about Eyeliner and what you are feeling, because we are not living your life. You are.

I've re-read through this thread, and nowhere do I see the words "lying", or "ungrateful", until you used them.

What I do see are many supportive, patient, and encouraging responses.

Perhaps I can never reveal my school or chapter then. I'm sorry about leading you guys on. I admit I did not fully think through being able to eventually tell you guys. I'm not sure what you mean when you say this is not merely about eyeliner. I think my problem is that I am all good with eyeliner, until I start comparing.

I don't think your comment about the feedback is true. No one is living my life, but me, and I have gotten tons of helpful advice in my life from others.

Oh. I was confused why people were interpreting my words differently then. One of the people who responded was saying I was coming off differently, and I wanted to clarify that the words I wrote were exactly what I meant. I did not mean to use the word lying with a bad connotation, I simply meant, I'm sorry for the misunderstanding, what I wrote is exactly what I meant. I didn't understand at first why they thought I meant something else. The only thing I could think of was that they maybe thought I was lying.

Someone said I wasn't being grateful, but it's ok, because she was right. I wasn't.

I agree there are many great responses as well that have helped me tremendously.

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by Ggirl617

Perhaps I can never reveal my school or chapter then.

PERHAPS? You've dug yourself a pretty deep hole here...it's best if you remain as anonymous as possible.

[Ggirl617]

Ok, so I am anonymous. I still can't work through my story then? Dug myself a hole? Except for being ungrateful and not thinking through the anonymity I really don't see what I've done wrong. Again, I'm sorry if I've upset anyone.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Ggirl617

Ok, so I am anonymous. I still can't work through my story then? Dug myself a hole? Except for being ungrateful and not thinking through the anonymity I really don't see what I've done wrong. Again, I'm sorry if I've upset anyone.

As someone said, work out these issues in a diary or with a close friend or family member, or hell, even one of the eyeliner sisters that maybe you've talked to more than others or a fellow pledge. Here is just not appropriate. GC is not a therapy board for new members of sororities trying to work out their issues. Yes, we give advice, but your situation is well above and beyond that point.

If you want to continue to vent and "work through" your issues here, then be prepared for the feedback, particularly the negative, that you're going to receive. If you don't want that kind of feedback, then another, more private forum is much more appropriate.

[Ggirl617]

Originally Posted by kddani

As someone said, work out these issues in a diary or with a close friend or family member, or hell, even one of the eyeliner sisters that maybe you've talked to more than others or a fellow pledge. Here is just not appropriate. GC is not a therapy board for new members of sororities trying to work out their issues. Yes, we give advice, but your situation is well above and beyond that point.

If you want to continue to vent and "work through" your issues here, then be prepared for the feedback, particularly the negative, that you're going to receive. If you don't want that kind of feedback, then another, more private forum is much more appropriate.

I just don't understand why all the feedback is negative. There are positive and negative aspects to sorority life and I'm only allowed to mention one? I don't personally agree with that, but if those are the rules of this forum, I THOROUGHLY apologize and I will stop. I personally don't believe my situation is so extraordinary, I just think I'm more vocal about it than others. I explained why I chose this place to talk, and if I was being inappropriate I wanted the moderators to explain why and I would abstain.