Co-Ed Fraternity needs ideas for new member period

[court4short]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Is this Alpha Phi Omega? If so, and even if not so, it would be best if you not call yourself "pledge mom." That reeks of sorority and will alienate men who want to pledge. Pledge trainer or pledge educator or pledgemaster are fine.

If this is a service fraternity, pledges should have to complete a certain number of service hours.

I'm not sure how men do big/little in fraternities, but again, stay away from anything that is too sorority like (string, squealing, etc) or it will alienate men who want to join.

I know many people in sororities think that a co-ed Fraternity shouldn't be calling their "pledge trainer" a "pledge mom" because it might scare away the males, I have to beg to differ. Speaking from experience, I was in a co-ed Fraternity and we had a pledge mom. It was usually women who filled the position, anyway, but if men did, they were pledge dads. The guys in my pledge class did not mind whatsoever, they in fact LOVED their "MILF".

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by court4short

I know many people in sororities think that a co-ed Fraternity shouldn't be calling their "pledge trainer" a "pledge mom" because it might scare away the males, I have to beg to differ. Speaking from experience, I was in a co-ed Fraternity and we had a pledge mom.

33girl was also in a co-ed fraternity as well as a sorority, so I'm guessing she speaks from experience too. Speaking from my experience (as a guy), I'd pretty much agree with what she said.

The guys in my pledge class did not mind whatsoever, they in fact LOVED their "MILF".

'Cause that's the dynamic you're going for.


FWIW, we (in my non-co-ed fraternity) had a very simple way of telling probationary members who their big brothers were -- your big brother pinned your probationary member pin on you at the pledging ceremony. I liked that way of doing it.

[court4short]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

33girl was also in a co-ed fraternity as well as a sorority, so I'm guessing she speaks from experience too. Speaking from my experience (as a guy), I'd pretty much agree with what she said.

'Cause that's the dynamic you're going for.


FWIW, we (in my non-co-ed fraternity) had a very simple way of telling probationary members who their big brothers were -- your big brother pinned your probationary member pin on you at the pledging ceremony. I liked that way of doing it.

I hadn't realized 33girl was also in a co-ed fraternity, my apologies to her. I wasn't trying to be condescending or mean or anything, just making a suggestion from my own personal experience. And the MILF thing was a joke, just trying to show that it didn't really scare the guys off....

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by court4short

I hadn't realized 33girl was also in a co-ed fraternity, my apologies to her. I wasn't trying to be condescending or mean or anything, just making a suggestion from my own personal experience. And the MILF thing was a joke, just trying to show that it didn't really scare the guys off....

Gotcha.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by court4short

I hadn't realized 33girl was also in a co-ed fraternity, my apologies to her. I wasn't trying to be condescending or mean or anything, just making a suggestion from my own personal experience. And the MILF thing was a joke, just trying to show that it didn't really scare the guys off....

Our APO chapter had enough problems with "incest" without calling anyone a MILF. Bwah.

At any rate, padprelaw (who is a poobah in the OP's org) has put the kibosh on any squealing or big/littling, so I don't know why there were any posts after his.

[naraht]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Our APO chapter had enough problems with "incest" without calling anyone a MILF. Bwah.

At any rate, padprelaw (who is a poobah in the OP's org) has put the kibosh on any squealing or big/littling, so I don't know why there were any posts after his.

I not only married another brother, I started dating her while I was a staff member and she was a member of a Petitioning Group/Pledge (Her "pledge class" was petititioners who joined after the charter application, so at chartering, they became pledges).

(take the issues of brothers dating pledges and get the RD involved. )

Randy

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by naraht

I not only married another brother, I started dating her while I was a staff member and she was a member of a Petitioning Group/Pledge (Her "pledge class" was petititioners who joined after the charter application, so at chartering, they became pledges).

(take the issues of brothers dating pledges and get the RD involved. )

Randy

Now I got a question. If two brothers have a kid, would it considered a double legacy?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Now I got a question. If two brothers have a kid, would it considered a double legacy?

Although we don't have an official definition of what "legacy" means for APO, I personally would consider that child a double legacy.