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I think this is a totally personally question. It really depends on what the woman wants. A lot of men find it insulting if their gf doesn't decide to take his last name when they get married, but some women feel very strongly about it. Me, I don't have a strong issue with it and I like my bf's last name better than mine so when we get married, I will probably take on his last name. But he has already expressed that he'd be bothered if I chose not to. Not that that would sway me....
My brother's wife didn't take our last name. It was a big issue when she first informed him that she didn't want to take it. Her situation was a bit different tho. She and my mother have the same first name. She thought it would be weird to be married to my brother and have the exact same name as his mother. He tried to explain to her that she's mom to him, and not her first name. She was adament tho, and at the end of the day she's kept her last name and he's had to deal. I honestly think that in this day and age, it's wrong to tell the woman that she HAS to take on a last name if she doesn't want to.
My cousin got married and as a nice twist, he and his wife decided to hyphenate their names together and now they both go by the hyphenated version. I think if a man is ademant that you give up the name you've grown up with, ask if he'd be willing to do the same....
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