Nervous PNAM.

UGAalum94 · #1 02-19-2009, 07:40 PM

Anyone else wonder if maybe NPHC grad chapters have made people think that there as similar opportunities in NPCs?

I don't think there's a single NPC that has alumnae initiation that is supposed to be sought out by the individual woman.

It's not really designed to be a thing that you research and put your name up for at a group you aren't already working with. If you are doing this, you are doing it wrong.

KSUViolet06 · #2 02-19-2009, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by UGAalum94

Anyone else wonder if maybe NPHC grad chapters have made people think that there as similar opportunities in NPCs?

I don't think there's a single NPC that has alumnae initiation that is supposed to be sought out by the individual woman.

It's not really designed to be a thing that you research and put your name up for at a group you aren't already working with. If you are doing this, you are doing it wrong.

I agree with your point about how it really isn't supposed to be sought out, but I don't think people doing so has anything to with NPHC practices.

Alot of it has to do with a bit of a "marketplace" that GC has created by having an entire forum dedicated to it. Nowhere else is there a forum about this. Why? Because a forum leads people to believe it occurs regularly.

UGAalum94 · #3 02-19-2009, 08:07 PM

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I agree with your point about how it really isn't supposed to be sought out, but I don't think people doing so has anything to with NPHC practices.

Alot of it has to do with a bit of a "marketplace" that GC has created by having an entire forum dedicated to it. Nowhere else is there a forum about this. Why? Because a forum leads people to believe it occurs regularly.

One of my first big GreekChat threads/flaming exchange of hostility was about the Alumnae Initiation forum. I was in favor of keeping it because I didn't see any harm in giving people a place to ask questions that group members could choose to answer or not answer.

Maybe, since I don't see a big hot issue in the forum right now that would be taken personally by anyone, it's time to close it if you think it's giving people the wrong idea. Who has access to the stats to see if it's even being used regularly? Anything else about AI by regular users could probably go in another forum.

I doubt it's GreekChat alone that's driving the trend but I have no idea. What do they have about it over at Happy Rainbow Pony Land?

indygphib · #4 02-19-2009, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I agree with your point about how it really isn't supposed to be sought out, but I don't think people doing so has anything to with NPHC practices.

Alot of it has to do with a bit of a "marketplace" that GC has created by having an entire forum dedicated to it. Nowhere else is there a forum about this. Why? Because a forum leads people to believe it occurs regularly.

Now that "He Who Shall Not Be Named" and BAtshit have forever been shown the door for GC, maybe we actually CAN put this part of the recruitment forum to rest. Mods?

33girl · #5 02-20-2009, 09:18 PM

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Anyone else wonder if maybe NPHC grad chapters have made people think that there as similar opportunities in NPCs?

Considering most of the AI hopefuls on here have been from PWIs, I doubt that many of them even know what an NPHC grad chapter is.

UGAalum94 · #6 02-20-2009, 09:55 PM

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Considering most of the AI hopefuls on here have been from PWIs, I doubt that many of them even know what an NPHC grad chapter is.

Yeah, maybe it's wishful thinking to assume they'd have been inspired by something positive rather than just unfulfilled undergraduate longing.

KSUViolet06 · #7 02-20-2009, 10:02 PM

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Yeah, maybe it's wishful thinking to assume they'd have been inspired by positive rather than just unfulfilled undergraduate longing.

In terms of GC, it is mostly the latter, lol.

Yes, there may be a few who have actually volunteered with and served the org they're interested in, or have ties to a specific sorority (maybe they pledged there in undergrad and had to quit due to illness or something).

But a common theme for MOST ladies who come here about it have that unfulfilled undergraduate longing thing.

Maybe it's hard for me to understand because I joined in undergrad, but I'm pretty cynical about the PNAMs who come here saying, "I have always DREAMED of joining a sorority." Really?

UGAalum94 · #8 02-20-2009, 10:20 PM

Yeah, it's weird to me to because if you always dreamed of it, you'd have made it a priority in your undergraduate experience, it seems to me. Or have found a suitable surrogate experience with a women's club.

I have really positive feelings about the AIs that I've known in real life, so I have absolutely no problem with the concept generally, but here I tend to wonder about some of the postings here.

I suppose on some level it boils down to the fact that I think most NPCs are really about supporting the undergraduate experience, and most of the NPC undergraduate experience is social (I don't just mean fraternity socials and date nights, but I mean about interpersonal relationships within the group). What would you be looking for as an unaffiliated alumna if you were checking out groups to AI into when you weren't already working with the chapters?

KSUViolet06 · #9 02-20-2009, 10:39 PM

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Yeah, it's weird to me to because if you always dreamed of it, you'd have made it a priority in your undergraduate experience, it seems to me. Or have found a suitable surrogate experience with a women's club.

I have really positive feelings about the AIs that I've known in real life, so I have absolutely no problem with the concept generally, but here I tend to wonder about some of the postings here.

Same here. Every AI I've met in real life has been a positive contributor to Sigma BEFORE getting initiated or has been tied to the sorority in some way before initiation. I'm not anti-AI by any means.

I just question people who come to the internet asking about it and pursuing it.

I feel like, if you're really seriously interested in being a part of a sorority as an alumna, you shouldn't NEED to come to a website and ask questions about it or go on a "search." You should already be in touch or have ties with the sorority in some manner and you should already KNOW alumnae PERSONALLY who are more than willing to help you. You should not have to come here for "advice" and such.

UGAalum94 · #10 02-20-2009, 10:54 PM

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Same here. Every AI I've met in real life has been a positive contributor to Sigma BEFORE getting initiated or has been tied to the sorority in some way before initiation. I'm not anti-AI by any means.

I just question people who come to the internet asking about it and pursuing it.

I feel like, if you're really seriously interested in being a part of a sorority as an alumna, you shouldn't NEED to come to a website and ask questions about it or go on a "search." You should already be in touch or have ties with the sorority in some manner and you should already KNOW alumnae PERSONALLY who are more than willing to help you. You should not have to come here for "advice" and such.

Yep, absolutely. This is one of the threads where I have no problem admitting that I've completely changed my mind from what I originally posted back when I was a new GC user. (well, not literally this thread, but a similar thread in this forum.)