Recession Proof Dating? Is there such a thing?

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

o.k. guys this post just scared the crap out of me.

There are plenty of people that doesn't happen to. Personally, I think I'd have found out had I lived with them first, but I never did. However, I did point out that I have very little tolerance for others' shortcomings (like not putting things away where they found them). That's my own flaw, but now that I recognize it, I know I couldn't live with someone again.

ETA: I should have recognized those things about myself because almost every college roommate I had drove me absolutely up a wall with their bad habits. Yes, I have bad habits too, but I'm ok with mine. It's other people's I can't deal with!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AGDee

There are plenty of people that doesn't happen to. Personally, I think I'd have found out had I lived with them first, but I never did. However, I did point out that I have very little tolerance for others' shortcomings (like not putting things away where they found them). That's my own flaw, but now that I recognize it, I know I couldn't live with someone again.

ETA: I should have recognized those things about myself because almost every college roommate I had drove me absolutely up a wall with their bad habits. Yes, I have bad habits too, but I'm ok with mine. It's other people's I can't deal with!

o.k. so then it's you. Not them. You said that they changed once the papers were signed. What about you? Did you change? So was it you that was the common denominator of the problems in both of your marriages? Dee, I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just asking.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

o.k. so then it's you. Not them. You said that they changed once the papers were signed. What about you? Did you change? So was it you that was the common denominator of the problems in both of your marriages? Dee, I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just asking.

Holy none of your business batman!

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Holy none of your business batman!

It isn't, and I've long sent her a PM about it. Thanks.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Holy none of your business batman!

KSU you and I really are the same person.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Are we the same person or something? Seriously, with my last BF, I'd find any excuse I could to get out of the double dating with married people or married people with kids.

Why? Because I don't want to hear:

*"Oh we used to go out for expensive dinners like this all the time before we got married, but once you get married, your priorities just kind of change, you know?"

WTF. We're at APPLEBEE'S. You're talking like we're at Tavern on the Green right now or something. No need to be condescending about how cheap you are and try to blame it on marriage.

*"Oh I used to be all skinny like you! You better enjoy it, once you get married, it's all downhill for your body!"

Please don't blame marriage for your mid-20's fat. You just got lazy and decided not to work out.

*"I'd love to be able to spend $20 on a haircut, but you know, we're parents now so we can't afford to spend SO much money on unimportant things. It's just not in our budget."

Are you really talking about a $20 haircut like it's a new Lexus or something? Please don't blame having kids on your cheapness.

*OMG. Those are the cutest jeans. I just don't think spending $50 for a pair of jeans makes sense now that we're married."

Well good for you, but it makes perfect sense to me thanks.

I could continue, but you get the idea. No thanks to the double dates.

I had more money and a better financial situation when I was engaged and living with my former future ex-husband. Married people can actually have a better situation money wise, since they have one household to support.

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

I feel like such a horrible person for hating all my married friends now.

I don't hate them. I just don't like going out with them.

The only married couple I like hanging out with is my brother and his wife. And mostly because they're pretty much the same as they were before getting married. They're having a baby this summer. I wonder if I'll like talking about my niece or nephew more than I like talking about other people's kids. I have a feeling I will.

Almost all the married people I know are freaking miserable, and complain all the time. The only married couple I actually want to hang out with is a same sex couple because they are exactly the same people as before they got married in a state that recognizes they are a couple.

[AKA_Monet]

Cheerful---

As long as I have seen AGDee's posts, this is just her reality and her path in her life. So what, her marriage experience was less that to be desired for her? That is all it is...

She MIGHT get married again... But for her right now, her issues are about respecting her space... That's all, no more, no less...

My marriage has not been rosy either. There have been times I got fed up just like AGDee. I just chose how significant my relationship to my husband is to me. She just chose differently--'cuz hey, fortunately, she's not me... But, I do respect her for what she is saying and from that all of us can learn...

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Cheerful---

As long as I have seen AGDee's posts, this is just her reality and her path in her life. So what, her marriage experience was less that to be desired for her? That is all it is...

She MIGHT get married again... But for her right now, her issues are about respecting her space... That's all, no more, no less...

My marriage has not been rosy either. There have been times I got fed up just like AGDee. I just chose how significant my relationship to my husband is to me. She just chose differently--'cuz hey, fortunately, she's not me... But, I do respect her for what she is saying and from that all of us can learn...

Oh no, please don't get me wrong. I respect Dee too. She's one of the nicer posters on here. It's just the way it was posted that gave me a bad impression. That and based on some of the other things I've heard from other people. I sent her a PM though, because it really wasn't any of my business to begin with.