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Originally Posted by AMTS
There was no official vote that took place. Returned to school to find out that everyone was going for it. Everyone who originally shared the same opinion slowly changed their minds and was finally left alone.
The other brothers learned that I was not fine with this decision. Since then, they're attitudes have changed towards me.
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These are the parts of your post that stuck out for me - that 1) this was never officially voted on and that's upsetting to you and 2) since you are not 100% on board with it, you're getting the shaft from guys you thought were your closest friends in the world.
I think the going national part has very little to do with it or with your unhappiness - you would most likely be just as upset if something else had been handled the same way, like getting a new house. There should have been an official vote, and even if there were people who didn't want to do it, their views should be treated with respect, not blown off or pressured into submission.
I would let the rest of the members know that you have respect for the national group but that you don't like the way this was handled, and if they can't or won't see your side of it, I would not join the national - just try to stay friends with the brothers you are closest to.
FWIW, I think that almost always when a local goes national, there are members who don't join or aren't on board with the idea. That doesn't mean they should be shunned. If they hadn't been there doing things for the chapter and making it strong, the national might not have picked them up in the first place.
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