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Originally Posted by cincy
So there is this guy (we will call him Chris) I have known since 7th grade, I am now a sophomore in college. We have always been friends and nothing more, until this past October when we went to this party with some friends and after that night things went from friends to more than friends. We have so many things in common and things will be made official (boyfriend-girlfriend not marriage) sometime closer to Christmas (I heard from one of his friends)
Recently, the past two weeks we have been talking sexual things. He knows I am a virgin (thats right the only 19, almost 20 year old virgin left on the planet). I plan[ned] to wait until marriage but I don't thing that's going to happen. Last night I gave in to my feelings and said it is very possible that it will happen soon. I won't say what else we spoke about 
My question is, how do I know if this is the right thing to do? He is a lot different that other guys I have messed with and i hae never felt this way about anybody else. I am simply tired of waiting to get some, i have passes up I don't know how many guys, but this one feels right.
Any advice?
P.S- I promise you he is a good guy. I wouldn't give up my virginity to some random loser. |
I know that it's already been said that "Chris" could be wanting the milk without buying the cow, but am I the only one who thinks this is DEFINITELY the case?
This kid has been friends with you for 6 years, and you've never gone out or even talked about it? Sounds to me that if he really wanted to be with you, you would have been in a relationship a long time ago.
And then suddenly, his FRIEND tells you that he's going to ask you out closer to Christmas (I feel like we're back in the 2nd grade), which is right around the time when you and Chris start talking about having sex? Sounds sketchy to me.
As you get older, if a guy likes you and truly wants to be with you, then he'll ask you out. Simple as that. And if he's one of those guys who's supposedly "too shy to ask", then he'd also be too shy to talk with you about all things sexual.
This guy might be a "good guy" and not some "random loser", but a lot of guys appear that way at first.
I just don't know how you can feel so strongly for someone that hasn't even asked you out, and has convinced you that having sex with him is a good idea, regardless of whether or not you're in a relationship.
But hey, if you want to break your long streak of abstinence for that, be my guest.
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