need some advice asap!

[lilzetakitten]

I just looked at all your old posts on GC. I know stuff can change in a few months but are you sure this is what you want?

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

My mom once said "Guys don't buy the cow when they can get the milk for free." (or something like that)

My mom used to say that, too--but I kept getting hung up on the fact that she was equating me with a cow (though I know that was hardly the point).

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

And you aren't the only 19/20 year old waiting for marriage. There is at least one other...

At least.

Originally Posted by alphagamzetagam

You can get pregnant or catch an STD your first time.

You can also get pregnant and catch certain skin-contact STDs even with a condom. That seems to never get mentioned because it happens infrequently, but "ish happens" sometimes.

[cincy]

I know everything that goes along with having sex (possible pregnancy, STD's, AIDS, STI's) I'm not dumb.

It is not shady. It's not that sex is the only thing we talk about. It wasnt until recently that we started talking about it. We talk about school, family, friends, future, our relationsip...

[FratBrah]

He's got you right where he wants you.
He'll probably do you a few times before Christmas and hope to pick up someone better at a New Year's party.

That's what I'd do anyway.....

[cincy]

Originally Posted by FratBrah

He's got you right where he wants you.
He'll probably do you a few times before Christmas and hope to pick up someone better at a New Year's party.

That's what I'd do anyway.....

na that's not it at all

i bet you would do something like that. i dont know who you are at all but from your posts i can picture who you are

[Buttonz]

If you have to ask other people then your not ready. End of story.

[Fleur de Lis]

Originally Posted by Buttonz

If you have to ask other people then your not ready. End of story.

Other people meaning random chat board people who don't know actually know you.

A lot goes along with sex that they don't teach in sex ed. It can build a false sense of intimacy (especially for women) and breaking up is that much harder. Also, once you've lost your virginity, it's difficult to wait until your true partner comes along, so you may lower your standards because a guy is "there" and into you. Are you prepared to deal with unexpected consequences like an STD or pregnancy? Has he been tested for an STD? (Men can be carriers without symptoms, so his word isn't enough.) Is it worth it for a guy you like, but doesn't seem committed to you in any form? I know you are curious, but I hope you will make a fully informed decision before you decide to go through with it.