Wedding Invitation Etiquette Question

[KSUViolet06]

I think the thing I've heard of that took the cake in terms of registries would be the HOME BUYING REGISTRY. The couple sets up a bank account and asks guests to contribute $$ to it in lieu of gifts, which will go toward the purchase of their new home.

http://www.bridaldownpayment.com/index.html#overview

I opened an invite that had a card from one of these places, and did a double take. I had never seen or heard of anything like this before.

[RaggedyAnn]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think the thing I've heard of that took the cake in terms of registries would be the HOME BUYING REGISTRY. The couple sets up a bank account and asks guests to contribute $$ to it in lieu of gifts, which will go toward the purchase of their new home.

http://www.bridaldownpayment.com/index.html#overview

I opened an invite that had a card from one of these places, and did a double take. I had never seen or heard of anything like this before.

It sounds strange, but I like that idea better than a green back. We actually let everyone know who gave us cash at our wedding that their gift would be used toward the downpayment of a home.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by RaggedyAnn

It sounds strange, but I like that idea better than a green back. We actually let everyone know who gave us cash at our wedding that their gift would be used toward the downpayment of a home.

i am just always so nervous about who you turn off when you steer from the norm, you know? some people think registries are pushy, others think money is rude...not that im would get married for the gifts lol, but traditions are traditions for some people! i would love money towards a house, but wouldnt DARE imply that, because our families are extra old-school and would probably opt to skip the gift altogether!

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

i would love money towards a house, but wouldnt DARE imply that, because our families are extra old-school and would probably opt to skip the gift altogether!

I'm not that old-school, but when my cousin sent her tacky-ass wishing well poem in the invite, I opted out a present altogether. When I personally ask people, however, if they want something special from their registries and they say that they'd really just prefer cash, I'll happily oblige. It's a difference between being asked and advertising that you want money.

[KSUViolet06]

I don't know, I just kind of feel like couples could take the money they'd spend for the wedding itself and put it toward said down payment, if they really want a home badly enough to make a registry out of it.

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by honeychile

I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

Oh yes, not only should we PAY for the home, but furnish it with dishes and knick knacks as well.

Oh no need for you buy me an etiquette book because I'm not going. I was just too outdone by the invite and registries to even show my face.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by honeychile

I missed this part! I'll even spring for the etiquette book, if you want to give them one! Tell them it's from me, I don't care!

Somewhere, the good ship Tacky has to be sunk!

I would LOVE to send etiquette books to those who have offended me in the manners department!

[RaggedyAnn]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I don't know, I just kind of feel like couples could take the money they'd spend for the wedding itself and put it toward said down payment, if they really want a home badly enough to make a registry out of it.

I should also mention that the same couple who had a home buying registry was also registered at Crate & Barrel. I just thought it was weird to ask for both housewares and a down payment (and yes, there was a note asking you to please consider doing both).

That is tacky. I just thought there was the one registry.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I think the thing I've heard of that took the cake in terms of registries would be the HOME BUYING REGISTRY. The couple sets up a bank account and asks guests to contribute $$ to it in lieu of gifts, which will go toward the purchase of their new home.

http://www.bridaldownpayment.com/index.html#overview

I opened an invite that had a card from one of these places, and did a double take. I had never seen or heard of anything like this before.

If I got an invitation with that in it, the bridal couple would receive an etiquette book from me!

As wonderful as getting wedding presents is, wedding guests bring them in celebration of a wedding, not to be fleeced. If you really want a house, cut back on the wedding frills.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by honeychile

If you really want a house, cut back on the wedding frills.

See that's what I was thinking too. As a guest, I have no problem with contributing registry items to help you furnish your home and such. I do have a problem with helping you pay for THE HOME ITSELF. If you need a registry to buy a home, you don't need a wedding.