Girls Lavilering Girlfriends?

[KSUViolet06]

I'm sorry, I don't have any experience with this in my particular chapter. All I know is that my sorority does have stipulations about who can wear our letters, and they're for members (new members, initiated members, or alumnae) to wear. This exclude significant others (male or female).

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I'm sorry, I don't have any experience with this in my particular chapter. All I know is that my sorority does have stipulations about who can wear our letters, and they're for members (new members, initiated members, or alumnae) to wear. This exclude significant others (male or female).

Agreed.

I've had chapter sisters in same-sex relationships over the years, and while they found nice ways to show their girlfriends how much they mean to them, lavaliering was not one of those ways.

Only initiated members can wear our letters. It's as simple as that. There are hundreds of other ways to show someone you care.

[PM_Mama00]

Pretty sure in Phi Mu members are the only ones allowed to wear letters. I don't think you can lavalier a boyfriend, so I'm sure same goes for girlfriends.

Originally Posted by PM_Mama00

Pretty sure in Phi Mu members are the only ones allowed to wear letters. I don't think you can lavalier a boyfriend, so I'm sure same goes for girlfriends.

Even if it were allowed, I doubt my BF would even want to wear my letters.

[LΩVE]

I don't think it would be appropriate for two major reasons. First, most sororities do not allow their members to give their letters to anyone who is not initiated (with the exception of "mom" products or "future XYZ"...we've all seen those). Secondly, and this is probably why the first reason exists, sororities do tend to have more stringent rules and guidelines regarding membership and behavior. For instance, not drinking or smoking in letters. There's no guarantee the nonmember wearing those letters will follow the guidelines. And lastly, a GIRL wearing a sorority's letters implies that she is indeed in that sorority. That's a fair enough assumption to make. So even more dangerous than a guy wearing a sorority's letters and being ridiculous in them, is a girl doing the same. We all know the guy isn't in the sorority, but a girl might be.

If it were my letters, I wouldn't be comfortable with a sister lavaliering her girlfriend (or boyfriend) for those reasons. But I know there's a tradition for non-greek boyfriends with greek girlfriends where a pearl drop is given instead of letters. Maybe give her that? Or just another nice piece of jewelry and explain that it represents what a lavaliere would. If SHE knows what you mean by giving it to her that's all that really matters.

[RedRover]

Out of curiosity, has any sorority done a candlelight ceremony (like the one in the movie Fraternity Row) for the impeding nupitals of a same-sex couple?
UMass, maybe? Berkeley? UC Santa Cruz

[catiebug]

Stereotype much?

Originally Posted by RedRover

Out of curiosity, has any sorority done a candlelight ceremony (like the one in the movie Fraternity Row) for the impeding nupitals of a same-sex couple?
UMass, maybe? Berkeley? UC Santa Cruz

[LΩVE]

Originally Posted by catiebug

Stereotype much?

You are aware that same sex MARRIAGE is only legal in Massachusetts and California?