Northern Arizona University Formal Recruitment

[Kansas City]

disasterscookie, I am sorry for the apparent hijack of this thread but would like to ask a question of the GCres out there ... If I had a disease, lets say flat feet, that might not allow me to participate fully in the chapter (can't live in the house and receive treatments at the same time), should I initiate a conversation about flat feet to complete strangers knowing full well that it might reduce chances of receieiving a bid? ... knowing that flat feet might not make me a poor candidate for membership but may reduce my capacity to participate or live in a house.

I think that there is a HUGE difference between lying and not initiating a personal conversation about yourself. Just as you wouldn't go to a job interview and initiate a conversation about your lack of transportation, don't intentionally tell others about the negatives. If you get the job you would just find a way to make it work (maybe the bus) just as with a sorority, if you receive a bid, you'll find a way to work it into your married life.

Also, my NPC offers alumna status to married undergrads because a married woman's priorities are generally different from an unmarried woman's but alumna status is the choice of the member and not the NPC.

[KSUViolet06]

My sorority doesn't require married women to take alumna status (we don't have any sort of early alumna status other than 5th yr alumna status anyway). If she receives a bid, she held to the same participation standards as any other sister. If her chapter bylaws don't include marriage as an exception to the live-in policy, she is expected to live-in just like anyone else. This is why it's important for married women to know about chapter live-in policies (as they probably aren't going to want to join knowing that they have to live-in at some point).

My advice is for you to find out about the chapter housing there and their live-in requirements before you get too far into recruitment. If the sororities have live-in requirements (and marriage isn't an exception to them), then it's best to know that, so you can decide to withdraw before you get a bid and then end up depledging.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by Kansas City

disasterscookie, I am sorry for the apparent hijack of this thread but would like to ask a question of the GCres out there ... If I had a disease, lets say flat feet, that might not allow me to participate fully in the chapter (can't live in the house and receive treatments at the same time), should I initiate a conversation about flat feet to complete strangers knowing full well that it might reduce chances of receieiving a bid? ... knowing that flat feet might not make me a poor candidate for membership but may reduce my capacity to participate or live in a house.

I think that there is a HUGE difference between lying and not initiating a personal conversation about yourself. Just as you wouldn't go to a job interview and initiate a conversation about your lack of transportation, don't intentionally tell others about the negatives. If you get the job you would just find a way to make it work (maybe the bus) just as with a sorority, if you receive a bid, you'll find a way to work it into your married life.

Also, my NPC offers alumna status to married undergrads because a married woman's priorities are generally different from an unmarried woman's but alumna status is the choice of the member and not the NPC.

My point is only about housing. If a chapter states up front that they have a housing requirement, and you know that you cannot meet that requirement, I think you have an obligation to bring it up. Now, if the chapter states that they only encourage living in, or that living in is required but there are exceptions, fine, I agree with your point. The problem is that the chapter may make the exception for the PNM, but the corporation may not. I know the corporation that I serve on has no established exceptions to the requirement to live in. Once the house is full, we consider exclusions, but if the house is not full, every member is required to live in or pay for the empty bed.

[NAU_OPhiA]

I'm brand new to GC and have really enjoyed the recruitment threads I have read so far. I joined a service sorority and did not experience the formal recruitment process, so it is interesting for me to read. I'm excited to hear what it is like at my alma mater!

Good luck!

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

My point is only about housing. If a chapter states up front that they have a housing requirement, and you know that you cannot meet that requirement, I think you have an obligation to bring it up. Now, if the chapter states that they only encourage living in, or that living in is required but there are exceptions, fine, I agree with your point. The problem is that the chapter may make the exception for the PNM, but the corporation may not. I know the corporation that I serve on has no established exceptions to the requirement to live in. Once the house is full, we consider exclusions, but if the house is not full, every member is required to live in or pay for the empty bed.

Agreed (especially the bold part).

[violetpretty]

You'd think that the chapter and house corporation would align their policies.