Northern Arizona University Formal Recruitment

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by disasterscookie

Isn't that kind of lying, if I don't bring it up? I don't want to get a bid to the house of my dreams and then have to bring up later that I am married and cannot live in.

The sororities on my campus do ask that you try to live in for a minimum of 2 years, but like I said, they are all pretty much at capacity.

If you do get a bid first and bring up your marital status later, I don't think the chapter can kick you out simply for not being able to live in because you are married. They could potentially take action if there were no reason for you to not want to live in. There are medical reasons why PNMs may not be able to live in a sorority house, and that alone probably won't work against you, especially if the chapters have no problem filling their spaces.

Each NPC may have different policies, or it may depend on the chapter bylaws what they consider valid excuses to live out of house.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

If you do get a bid first and bring up your marital status later, I don't think the chapter can kick you out simply for not being able to live in. There are medical reasons why PNMs may not be able to live in a sorority house, and that alone probably won't work against you, especially if the chapters have no problem filling their spaces.

We have put members on suspension for failure to live in.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

We have put members on suspension for failure to live in.

But weren't there exceptions? (RAs, have to live in specified housing because of academic program, townies)

If Susie Sorority Member gets a scholarship to study Russian and then finds out she needs to live in the Russian House on campus to use it, I don't think the sorority could kick her out without a really giant stink.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by 33girl

But weren't there exceptions? (RAs, have to live in specified housing because of academic program, townies)

If Susie Sorority Member gets a scholarship to study Russian and then finds out she needs to live in the Russian House on campus to use it, I don't think the sorority could kick her out without a really giant stink.

There were a few exceptions. I just wanted to point out that it might not be as simple as "they probably can't kick you out for not living in." I'm sure every chapter has their own guidelines about that. I would feel uneasy recommending to a PNM that a rule might not really be a rule. We don't know. I have a lot of respect for the advice that VP gives, so I was just pointing out that circumstances can and do arise where a chapter has to enforce their living-in policy. (And it's a pain in the rear when they do. )

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

There were a few exceptions. I just wanted to point out that it might not be as simple as "they probably can't kick you out for not living in." I'm sure every chapter has their own guidelines about that. I would feel uneasy recommending to a PNM that a rule might not really be a rule. We don't know. I have a lot of respect for the advice that VP gives, so I was just pointing out that circumstances can and do arise where a chapter has to enforce their living-in policy. (And it's a pain in the rear when they do. )

I should have been more clear. Every NPC is bound to have different policies (and they may be different from chapter to chapter). It's one thing to say "I don't want to live in" and have no apparent reason for it when there are spaces to be filled (not what I was referring to), but I would think that at least some NPCs/chapters would consider marriage a valid reason to not live in the house. I'll edit my post to reflect that.