advice needed...marriage/engagement problem.

[AGDee]

"I'm in transportation"

Seriously though, tell them what your major was and that while you're looking for a job in your field, you're doing whatever it takes to pay the bills. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Besides, they may have connections. If you don't advertise that you're looking for a job, you won't find one.

[LowLite]

Originally Posted by AGDee

"I'm in transportation"

Seriously though, tell them what your major was and that while you're looking for a job in your field, you're doing whatever it takes to pay the bills. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Besides, they may have connections. If you don't advertise that you're looking for a job, you won't find one.

lol yeah, I guess I could say I'm in transportation, but they would say what do you transport?

Actually, I just got off work. But yeah, that's pretty much what I do say. I let them know what I want to go into and that this is just what I'm doing to pay the bills until something comes up.

I have a kid and a fiance who's a doctor and that's what makes me feel ashamed. I need to find another 2nd job though, because when I had two jobs, things were a lot easier when it came to paying the bills. Plus I have student loans to pay back. My fiance has been helping though. She wants me to find something in my field as bad as I do.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by LowLite

Get your facts straight or ask before you post.

My God, how was I supposed to know you had another job?! I thought you just had the pizza job. You said it yourself. You didn't mention a 2nd job anywhere!!!

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

You said it yourself.

Yes, he did. Don't feel bad, cheers.

Originally Posted by LowLite

I lost my job.

But a month later...

Originally Posted by LowLite

My hours changed at one of the jobs so I had to quit that one.

If you want people to get their facts straight, maybe YOU should have them straight first.

[LowLite]

Originally Posted by Fawn Liebowitz

If you believe you've found the love of your life, don't risk losing her. True love/love that can last forever is much too hard to find.

Yes, I agree. I'm just not happy about my place of employment.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by LowLite

She tells me it's ok and that she and her parents would pay. My parents also want to see us marry and are willing to help pay for a nice wedding.

I think that this is the crux of it - I don't think you would be as upset if the parents weren't involved and it was just between the two of you.

You can have a nice wedding without breaking the bank. It just sounds like she and her parents want to have something huge and ornate and are thinking more about the wedding than the marriage.

I don't know what facet of comm you focused on, but if you're trying to get into radio, unless you are Howard Stern, I pretty much GUARANTEE you - your wife is always going to make more than you. A lot of positions, unless you are in NYC or LA - you're not going to be making big bucks. Not that they won't be enjoyable, but don't think you're going to be rich.

Try a temp agency if you haven't already. And sit down with her and reevaluate what exactly the wedding is going to be.

[When Doves Cry]

geeez ^ that's addiction!

[Honeykiss1974]

Ok, you have a child and a financee to provide for. You need to SERIOUSLY consider taking professional jobs outside of your major (as another GC'er recommended) even if it is entry level or something to just get your foot in the door. Recognize this as a stepping stone - allowing you to gain professional experience, health insurance and pay back student loans. This will give you the feeling that you are contributing to the household, and using your degree in some form or fashion (compared to your current jobs).

It sounds like you have a good woman. Your financee obviously loves you if she's waited over 3 years because most women would not have (yours truly included). Do the right thing by her and just be honest with yourself. As another GC'er stated, dig to see if this is the REAL reason for the hesitation in marriage. If it's not, then getting a job in your field of interest won't help it and the stress of marriage will just amplify it.

[LowLite]

Originally Posted by Honeykiss1974

Ok, you have a child and a financee to provide for. You need to SERIOUSLY consider taking professional jobs outside of your major (as another GC'er recommended) even if it is entry level or something to just get your foot in the door. Recognize this as a stepping stone - allowing you to gain professional experience, health insurance and pay back student loans. This will give you the feeling that you are contributing to the household, and using your degree in some form or fashion (compared to your current jobs).

It sounds like you have a good woman. Your financee obviously loves you if she's waited over 3 years because most women would not have (yours truly included). Do the right thing by her and just be honest with yourself. As another GC'er stated, dig to see if this is the REAL reason for the hesitation in marriage. If it's not, then getting a job in your field of interest won't help it and the stress of marriage will just amplify it.

I agree with you, which is why I think it would be a mistake getting married right now. Believe me, I am looking, and I have been look outside of what I want to go into. The thing that's holding me back is my experience. I literally have nothing to put on my resume with the exception of:

Papa Johns
TGI Fridays
Wendy's
Wal-Mart
Krogers
Painting houses
Midas and I had a few in and out jobs while I was in undergrad.

[Honeykiss1974]

That's not a bad list of jobs to work with. Change your resume to focus on your skills and not your jobs.

I would definitely try to find entry level positions such those offered by Enterprise Rent-A-Car (management trainee positions) or even by management trainee roles offered by Papa Johns or Krogers (especially if you're located in Louisville or Cincinatti). I worked at Krogers as a cashier while in college and that was the ONLY job experience I had too when I graduated.

Also, are you working with your college's alumni office? Inquire about job fairs and recruiter visits (seeing if you can schedule an interview). Contact old professors that you're cool with for leads. No offense, but you've got to work ALL avenues, so unless you live in BFE town of 100 people, there are jobs there for those with a degree (which is just a piece of paper to get you in the door) - you've just go to hustle.

Good Luck. And tell your finance that you're not ready for marriage right now (and the why) so she can make whatever decisions necessary for her.

Originally Posted by LowLite

I agree with you, which is why I think it would be a mistake getting married right now. Believe me, I am looking, and I have been look outside of what I want to go into. The thing that's holding me back is my experience. I literally have nothing to put on my resume with the exception of:

Papa Johns
TGI Fridays
Wendy's
Wal-Mart
Krogers
Painting houses
Midas and I had a few in and out jobs while I was in undergrad.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by LowLite

I agree with you, which is why I think it would be a mistake getting married right now. Believe me, I am looking, and I have been look outside of what I want to go into. The thing that's holding me back is my experience. I literally have nothing to put on my resume with the exception of:

Papa Johns
TGI Fridays
Wendy's
Wal-Mart
Krogers
Painting houses
Midas and I had a few in and out jobs while I was in undergrad.

Those last two and and possibly three actually say a lot. Dude, you have restaurant experience. Restaurants, bars, etc., while not exactly recession proof, tend to still do pretty well in times like these. Go apply to be a waiter or manager or even bus/back. Then after awhile you'll be promoted to bartender if you work hard and are good at it. Then you'll be set. Restaurant work isn't all that bad, and if you work hard at it and pay your dues you can actually get pretty far. And the hours tend to be flexible enough that you could pick up a class or whatever if you are still studying. Seriously, not always the best job, but usually pretty good. You've got the experience, maybe not in what you want to do, but in something that is actually marketable. I would go with that.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

Then after awhile you'll be promoted to bartender if you work hard and are good at it.

I tried telling him to apply for upper management positions, but he chewed me out for whatever reason. One thing I can say though, he worked hard posting his employment problems on greekchat, but instead he got demoted as in "BANNED".

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I tried telling him to apply for upper management positions, but he chewed me out for whatever reason. One thing I can say though, he worked hard posting his employment problems on greekchat, but instead he got demoted as in "BANNED".

hahaha