? about your weddings

[RaggedyAnn]

We wanted a small wedding party, so we had a Best Man, Maitron of Honor, Junior Best Man (an 11 year old is just too old to be a ring bearer in my opinion) and a flower girl.

I wanted my brothers involved in the wedding, so I asked them to be ushers (seat people). They rented tuxes so they didn't have to buy suits. I gave them the choice. Just before the women walked down the aisle, I had my FIL usher my NanaIL, my oldest younger brother seat my MIL, my 2nd brother usher his older sister and my baby brother usher his baby sister.

[AGDee]

Most often I've seen the groomsmen act as ushers as well. Occasionally I've seen a few extra ushers, depending on the size of the bridal party and the size of the wedding itself. You don't want people waiting to be seated because you only have 2 ushers and 300 people. I believe the recommended back in my day was one usher per 50 guests.

I've seen groomsmen do it both ways, walking the bridesmaids down the aisle and waiting by groom. In both cases, they escorted the bridesmaids out. I think which way you do it is just the church's standard and personal preference.

ETA: I've never seen a Dad be a best man. I've seen a son be a best man in a second, older marriage.