lonely and depressed...

[tld221]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Whut's wrong with a BOB? If you need him, then use him... Nuthin's wrong with that till you find a physical man to satisfy your need. Besides, the gentlemen that DESERVES your presence, is being prepared for you...

oh theres nothing WRONG with BOB. id never "need" it per se, but you kinda know when the temporary/substitute fix aint cutting it.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by tld221

oh theres nothing WRONG with BOB. id never "need" it per se, but you kinda know when the temporary/substitute fix aint cutting it.

Welp, what obstacle(s) do you think you have to overcome to get that "special gentleman"?

[tld221]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Welp, what obstacle(s) do you think you have to overcome to get that "special gentleman"?

well sheesh, now im starting to sweat a little.

i need to think about this.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by tld221

i suppose ill throw my "woe is me, im single" post:

ive been single for... a few years, i guess 6 years now? the last real relationship i had was short and sweet. ive been on a couple dates over the years since then, but they were all lame ducks--dudes who wanted to do the friends thing, dudes who liked dudes, dudes who had girls already, etc.

i've done the "im single and loving it" thing. and the "im single and hating it" thing. and then the "im gonna dress really provocatively and see who will take me home" thing. and then the "im gonna be a total spinster and see who will ask for my number. the "ill be a woman of the new generation and ask HIM out" thing wasnt so empowering.

so now im doing the "welp im almost 25 and ive never felt this much pressure to be in a relationship" thing. of all my friends, one recently got married, another engaged, and the rest are either in committed relationships (im the oldest of 4 and all my siblings are in relationships!) or desperately single like myself.

so now... im just doing me. which is what i shouldve done all along. but dammit, man company is nice you know!

What's a woman with a great sense of humor like you doing single?

You really should try Borders. There are a lot of one woman men there. The kind where getting to know the woman is 1st, starting a serious monogomous relationship 2nd, and the sex is....well...soon after?

[DSTCHAOS]

Borders is a bookstore. If you're going there to find men or women, you're lame and might by trying too hard.

I don't suggest anyone go anywhere to find someone. (with exception for those of you who do the singles mixes, dating sites and events--wasn't my cup of tea when I was single, though) Just live your life and what is meant for will be wherever you go. You will find your mate in the most unpredictable of places, especially when you were minding your own business and not thinking about the opposite sex.

[AKA_Monet]

^^^Depends on what he's reading... LOL...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

^^^Depends on what he's reading... LOL...

As long as the joker isn't at Barnes and Noble. Hint hint. LMAO.

[sjsoffer]

My Human Sexuality teacher told us to meet people by reading our human sexuality textbook in public... awkward.

[cheerfulgreek]

I don't think anything is wrong with being single. It's not that big of a deal. At least it wasn't for me. I've always had hobbies that I was really interested in. For that whole year and a half I didn't think about it much. I dated a lot but nothing serious. Hobbies will keep you occupied. I remember I had a date the same day Mars, Jupiter and Saturn were going to be lined up. This doesn't happen very often so I bought a telescope and cancelled the date.

Anywhooo, just thought I would get a couple of posts in before I go to work.

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Whut's wrong with a BOB? If you need him, then use him... Nuthin's wrong with that till you find a physical man to satisfy your need. Besides, the gentlemen that DESERVES your presence, is being prepared for you...

Hell, even when you have a man, there is nothing wrong with BOB pinch hitting

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

As long as the joker isn't at Barnes and Noble. Hint hint. LMAO.

[christiangirl]

I don't think I go places to meet anybody. I go to Barnes and Noble, the best bookstore in the world, because I was either a) getting a book or b) going to work. I don't think I really go anywhere except the library, friend's houses, restaurants, or the movies. Other than someone buying me and my friends a round of drinks (and they were sent to our table, so I never even saw him) I haven't met anyone by going out. I meet most of the guys I know through school (so they're married) or at work (and I don't date co-workers). I'll just say God's trying to tell me something and leave it there. Anymore thought and I'll depress myself.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I don't think I go places to meet anybody. I go to Barnes and Noble, the best bookstore in the world, because I was either a) getting a book or b) going to work.

Good.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I don't think I go places to meet anybody. I go to Barnes and Noble, the best bookstore in the world, because I was either a) getting a book or b) going to work. I don't think I really go anywhere except the library, friend's houses, restaurants, or the movies. Other than someone buying me and my friends a round of drinks (and they were sent to our table, so I never even saw him) I haven't met anyone by going out. I meet most of the guys I know through school (so they're married) or at work (and I don't date co-workers). I'll just say God's trying to tell me something and leave it there. Anymore thought and I'll depress myself.

"Where the boy's are..."

Sometimes, you never know when you are going to meet that special someone (for the night, the evening, the week, the month(s) or the year).

Making the co-workers off-limits, unless it is in your HR Code of Conduct manuals, then, you never know that on that special projects, sparks may fly...

Sometimes, you have to go to those conferences, meetings, in far away places, to meet those gentlemen you desire the most... Communications is very much different than when I was your age, most professionals have linkedin, facebooks, and Ning accounts. Singles have more information at their disposal than ever before about one another. No way you cannot find out about another person fully before dating. Which makes me wonder why its so hard to meet someone? But, meeting THE ONE is different than meeting someone, and you said, you just want to basically "hangout".

Since you like movies, how come you don't support the "film festivals" in your city? If you like the new comic-cons, then how come you are not going to them?

And if I was single, I would be attending my Boule, that just sounds fun! But, my husband's and mine's funding is tied up to different travel arrangements.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I don't think anything is wrong with being single. It's not that big of a deal. At least it wasn't for me. I've always had hobbies that I was really interested in. For that whole year and a half I didn't think about it much. I dated a lot but nothing serious. Hobbies will keep you occupied. I remember I had a date the same day Mars, Jupiter and Saturn were going to be lined up. This doesn't happen very often so I bought a telescope and cancelled the date.

Anywhooo, just thought I would get a couple of posts in before I go to work.

LMAO i totally read something more into that but maybe you just really like planets and whatnot.