Be a good big!

Senusret I · #1 06-11-2008, 10:08 PM

Just wanted to say people in coeds and guys in fraternities need to take heed as well if you have big/little programs.

Still BLUTANG · #2 06-12-2008, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

Just wanted to say people in coeds and guys in fraternities need to take heed as well if you have big/little programs.

duly noted.

MaggieXi · #3 06-12-2008, 08:38 AM

My big and I had a major falling out the end of my sophmore year. We had one huge fight in the middle of our greek courts - over the fact that she didn't like that I had started hanging out with other sisters that she didn't like. She told me to go find a new big and that she was "de-littling me". After that she pretty much just stopped speaking to me and my lil.

My lil and I got really close after that and then my grand-lil joined our fam. All 3 of us got along great. We weren't each others best friends in the sorority, but we were friends and we were allies and we tried to do "family" things together on occassion. 8 years later I still talk to both my lil and my grandlil.

PM_Mama00 · #4 06-12-2008, 10:06 AM

My original big and I were really close, until she got her next lil sis. Then it was like I didn't exist. There was an older member who stood in for my big because she couldn't make it to initiation. This older member lived near me (commuter campus) so she was pretty much my "big" sis. I made her a paddle with "Pseudo Big Sis" on it. She graduated and we kept in touch once in a while, but not much. I became very close to another sister and considered her my big sis from then on.

My original big sis took on another lil sis. When she left the sorority to help start a new local (not too long after that sister's initiation) I took on the big sistership of the lil. Seven years later we still call each other big sis/lil sis. Sometimes you just gota go with the flow and you don't always have to be close to that person who was given to you.

AOII Angel · #5 06-12-2008, 10:44 AM

I think it's nice when big/lil sister combos work out to be great friends, but the purpose of a Big Sis is to give the new member a mentor. In AOII, she also vouches for the new member. If you aren't best of friends, at least, the Big Sis should be available to answer questions and should take an interest in making sure her lil's new member period is successful. If she can't do those things, she has no business being a big sis.