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Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS
Some black women do because ONCE AGAIN it's a case of "anything but black." Black women as a group have always been told our beauty is not the standard and that white women were more beautiful and more pure. That also fuels the fire of intragroup prejudice based on skin complexion and hair texture. So when Latina women are now some type of standard, and used as "anything but black," that is symbolic of more than just an individual-level dating preference.
Black women don't want every black man and we don't want to control who people date, in general. What we DO want is for our beauty and attributes to not be objectified and downplayed, only to be mimicked by others or celebrated as if the wheel has just been invented. When J Lo was such a big deal, for example, a lot of black women thought "okay...she's ALWAYS been pretty but her butt is something that many black women have everyday."
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this is an issue on campus as there are about as many Black women as there are Latinas. I think it is an unspoken one though, like neither is willing to say something but I have had some conversations with my Black female and Latina friends.
Many of the Black women I talk to cannot stand that Black men are dating Latinas when there are just as many Black women on campus. Many of what my friends have said is "they seem to be going with them for the same attributes they can get with us", mind you there are very little Black Latinas and the majority are white of Mestiza (Indigenous/White..which ultimately leads em to be darker skinned than European Latinas).
Now other Black women have been telling me, "I'm okay with it, I ultimately don't like Black men gettin with white women when there are women of color around him". I know the main thing that perturbs Black women when Black males date Latinas on campus is when Black men (not all) tell them that they have 'more in common because of upbringing' with Latinas than they do Black women, this could be a class issue as my school has been able to recruit more inner city urban Latinos but has gotten way more middle class Black students than Latinos.
It's a mouthful open to more questions but I'm all ears
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