I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by starang21

what are you cosigning to? his comment on black men who date white women are weak?

I think she was being sarcastic.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

[lildiva9619]

I disagree with those statements. If a Black Man only sees Black women as lazy, loud, ignorant and ghetto, a white girl can have him! What kinda Black Men are you meeting? If that is how some black women wanna carry themselves, of course they're gonna go through that, or find a black man who's standards of living are equally as low. If you carry yourself respectably, and be a LADY, you'll find a good Black Man. HOWEVER I have been told that interracial dating is a "cultural thing". Some black men from down south and out west enjoy the company of white women. I'm not gonna say that it doesn't happen up here (in New York) but I don't see it very often. Here, Black Men LOVE BLACK WOMEN!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by lildiva9619

I disagree with those statements. If a Black Man only sees Black women as lazy, loud, ignorant and ghetto, a white girl can have him! What kinda Black Men are you meeting? If that is how some black women wanna carry themselves, of course they're gonna go through that, or find a black man who's standards of living are equally as low. If you carry yourself respectably, and be a LADY, you'll find a good Black Man. HOWEVER I have been told that interracial dating is a "cultural thing". Some black men from down south and out west enjoy the company of white women. I'm not gonna say that it doesn't happen up here (in New York) but I don't see it very often. Here, Black Men LOVE BLACK WOMEN!

By "cultural" you mean regional cultures.

Some black men all over the country enjoy the company of white women and black men all over the country LOVE BLACK WOMEN! I do not have the regional statistics on regional interracial dating and marriage. But people's opinions on black men-white women isn't based on its real prevalence. It is based on its appearance and how visible it is in a particular area.

Although you may not see a whole lot of black men-white women couples walking around certain parts of NYC, you do see black men and nonAfrican diasporic women (i.e. Latina women who are not considered "Afro-Latina, Armenian, etc.).

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

i parade my ivory princess around all the time.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

That poster was saying that some black men do see white women as prizes so on first appearance she is apprehensive about interracial couples.

But the poster also said that she gives these couples the benefit of the doubt beyond that because she knows that a lot of people really do find love "in the swirl."

I know black men who have put white women on a pedastol and said things like "white women aren't bossy," "white women are submissive," "I advance my career with white women." Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

[lovehaiku84]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

That poster was saying that some black men do see white women as prizes so on first appearance she is apprehensive about interracial couples.

But the poster also said that she gives these couples the benefit of the doubt beyond that because she knows that a lot of people really do find love "in the swirl."

@ DSTCHAOS - You are spot on with regards to what I meant. Thanks for helping to clear that up.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

@ DSTCHAOS - You are spot on with regards to what I meant. Thanks for helping to clear that up.

When you see a black guy with a white woman, how do you know if he's parading her around like a prize or if he really likes her? Do you just make an assumption?

[Little32]

Originally Posted by starang21

i parade my ivory princess around all the time.

You guys and your status symbols. *SMH*

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I know black men who have put white women on a pedastol and said things like "white women aren't bossy," "white women are submissive," "I advance my career with white women." Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

Wait. People have actually said that to you? I know they have thought that about me, but no one has ever said it so bluntly. One reason why I have difficulty with the idea of dating white men is that I don't want to be anybody's "exotic".

[lovehaiku84]

@Cheerfulgreek

I don't know, which is why I try to give them the benefit of the doubt.

I have no idea whether the man is parading her around like a prize or not, so I make an effort not to pass judgment.

I haven't the foggiest, and therefore I make no assumptions about his reason for being with her.



That said, I do WONDER/QUESTION if it is like/love, or if it's something else.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by Little32

You guys and your status symbols. *SMH*

how do you think i make in corporate america? i have to bring something to company functions to make the white male power structure more at ease.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

i thought we were never going to talk about that again.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by starang21

i thought we were never going to talk about that again.

^^^ race traitor