I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

i parade my ivory princess around all the time.

[Little32]

Originally Posted by starang21

i parade my ivory princess around all the time.

You guys and your status symbols. *SMH*

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I know black men who have put white women on a pedastol and said things like "white women aren't bossy," "white women are submissive," "I advance my career with white women." Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

Wait. People have actually said that to you? I know they have thought that about me, but no one has ever said it so bluntly. One reason why I have difficulty with the idea of dating white men is that I don't want to be anybody's "exotic".

[starang21]

Originally Posted by Little32

You guys and your status symbols. *SMH*

how do you think i make in corporate america? i have to bring something to company functions to make the white male power structure more at ease.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Little32

You guys and your status symbols. *SMH*

He only parades white women around at parades.

Originally Posted by Little32

Wait. People have actually said that to you? I know they have thought that about me, but no one has ever said it so bluntly. One reason why I have difficulty with the idea of dating white men is that I don't want to be anybody's "exotic".

Oh yeah...that's what I get for trying to be friendly sometimes. I'm not used to being places where white men are pursuing black women. So I don't automatically act standoffish like I do with black men who I don't want to be bothered with.

Friendly white people + friendly black people + maybe some drinks at a nonthreatening/unassuming (noncolleague) social gathering = usually some interesting comments.

How do you know they have thought that about you? They told someone else?

[Little32]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He only parades white women around at parades.

Ha!

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

How do you know they have thought that about you? They told someone else?

No, it is more the subtext of some of the other things that they say, and this is without the benefits of alcohol.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

That poster was saying that some black men do see white women as prizes so on first appearance she is apprehensive about interracial couples.

But the poster also said that she gives these couples the benefit of the doubt beyond that because she knows that a lot of people really do find love "in the swirl."

I know black men who have put white women on a pedastol and said things like "white women aren't bossy," "white women are submissive," "I advance my career with white women." Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

[lovehaiku84]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

That poster was saying that some black men do see white women as prizes so on first appearance she is apprehensive about interracial couples.

But the poster also said that she gives these couples the benefit of the doubt beyond that because she knows that a lot of people really do find love "in the swirl."

@ DSTCHAOS - You are spot on with regards to what I meant. Thanks for helping to clear that up.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

@ DSTCHAOS - You are spot on with regards to what I meant. Thanks for helping to clear that up.

When you see a black guy with a white woman, how do you know if he's parading her around like a prize or if he really likes her? Do you just make an assumption?

[lovehaiku84]

@Cheerfulgreek

I don't know, which is why I try to give them the benefit of the doubt.

I have no idea whether the man is parading her around like a prize or not, so I make an effort not to pass judgment.

I haven't the foggiest, and therefore I make no assumptions about his reason for being with her.



That said, I do WONDER/QUESTION if it is like/love, or if it's something else.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

i thought we were never going to talk about that again.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by starang21

i thought we were never going to talk about that again.

^^^ race traitor

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

^^^ race traitor

what are you talking about? i love scandinavian women.