I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by Ronnie B

It especially looks bad when a black dude dates a white girl. Why? Because it makes him look weak to me. What's wrong with a strong sistah? I think a lot of black dudes who go out with white girls can't handle a sistah. Either that, or they believe in the stereotype of the "attitude" thing that black women are plagued with.

Right on! I couldn't agree more since love and spiritual/social/physical/mental/emotional compatibility have nothing to do with what makes for a solid relationship/marriage.

[lovehaiku84]

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

i parade my ivory princess around all the time.

[Little32]

Originally Posted by starang21

i parade my ivory princess around all the time.

You guys and your status symbols. *SMH*

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I know black men who have put white women on a pedastol and said things like "white women aren't bossy," "white women are submissive," "I advance my career with white women." Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

Wait. People have actually said that to you? I know they have thought that about me, but no one has ever said it so bluntly. One reason why I have difficulty with the idea of dating white men is that I don't want to be anybody's "exotic".

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

That poster was saying that some black men do see white women as prizes so on first appearance she is apprehensive about interracial couples.

But the poster also said that she gives these couples the benefit of the doubt beyond that because she knows that a lot of people really do find love "in the swirl."

I know black men who have put white women on a pedastol and said things like "white women aren't bossy," "white women are submissive," "I advance my career with white women." Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

[lovehaiku84]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

That poster was saying that some black men do see white women as prizes so on first appearance she is apprehensive about interracial couples.

But the poster also said that she gives these couples the benefit of the doubt beyond that because she knows that a lot of people really do find love "in the swirl."

@ DSTCHAOS - You are spot on with regards to what I meant. Thanks for helping to clear that up.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

i thought we were never going to talk about that again.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I know black men who have put white women on a pedastol and said things like "white women aren't bossy," "white women are submissive," "I advance my career with white women." Just like I have had white men approach me on some "I've always been curious about black women...nubian princess...give me that sassy black women stuff...." and they totally made me feel like they were anticipating some slave massa and slave mistress action.

I've witnessed this mess myself as well. Men who think like this aren't really going to be much good for any woman, so it's not really a loss. On that bossy thing though...I hate to burst anyone's bubble but I am one bossy, unsubmissive-bordering-on-aggressive and fearless white binch.

ETA: AND I'm the breadwinner of my family as well as handling all things related to finance, budgeting and investing. Try me.

[Ronnie B]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

Yup! They do. I think all of them do though. They do it because they had issues with some sistah they dated in the past, so then they think the grass in greener on the other side which is why they go white. To me white women are nuts. They kill their kids and chit, and then blame it on a brotha. That's why I just hit it and quit it. A black dude who dates a white girl might as well slap his mamma in the face. For real. He was made by a black woman, so he should be a with a black woman. Period.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Right on! I couldn't agree more since love and spiritual/social/physical/mental/emotional compatibility have nothing to do with what makes for a solid relationship/marriage.

what are you cosigning to? his comment on black men who date white women are weak?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by starang21

what are you cosigning to? his comment on black men who date white women are weak?

I think she was being sarcastic.