I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[I.A.S.K.]

Originally Posted by Ronnie B

I'm a black dude. The reason why I couldn't get serious with a white woman, is because of the way it looks, especially in public. I would be ashamed of her. If she was tanned then maybe I would be partial to it, but if she was pale or red/pink, there's no way.

Wow! So would you be ashamed of her only because she was pale or is it because you would be ashamed of the way people would react to you being black and her being a pale white woman? And why would you be partial to it if she were tanned? is it because she would look like she was a person of color eventhough she wasnt? So its okay as long as it "looks right"?

Im just having a hard time grasping this.

To the topic(s) at hand:
1. I've never dated outside of my race because i've never found a white or other guy attractive (as in someone i know not some celebs because there are definitely some guys of other races that make me wanna live in TV land) enough to hold my interest. Also it is really hard for any person who is not black to understand the complexity that is my blackness. Being black is so multifacited that only living in this black skin could allow you to understand and even then there is still so much that is not understood. For example to some black people (like myself) being a part of the political process is absolutely necessary to change the way that blacks are treated and viewed in america. While to other black people the political process is nothing more than a ploy to keep the black mind occupied on things that are not conducive to increasing black people's awareness and development. Although these are two very different opinions they are both very black and only a black person would be able understand and appreciate these things without me spending decades (or any amount of time) teaching them about them.
2. The interracial thing is only bothersome when it is done out of ignorance or spite or for reasons other than love. Personally i dont agree with ANY relationship regardless of race that is embarked upon for the wrong reasons.

[Ronnie B]

Originally Posted by I.A.S.K.

Wow! So would you be ashamed of her only because she was pale or is it because you would be ashamed of the way people would react to you being black and her being a pale white woman? And why would you be partial to it if she were tanned? is it because she would look like she was a person of color eventhough she wasnt? So its okay as long as it "looks right"?

Im just having a hard time grasping this.

To the topic(s) at hand:
1. I've never dated outside of my race because i've never found a white or other guy attractive (as in someone i know not some celebs because there are definitely some guys of other races that make me wanna live in TV land) enough to hold my interest. Also it is really hard for any person who is not black to understand the complexity that is my blackness. Being black is so multifacited that only living in this black skin could allow you to understand and even then there is still so much that is not understood. For example to some black people (like myself) being a part of the political process is absolutely necessary to change the way that blacks are treated and viewed in america. While to other black people the political process is nothing more than a ploy to keep the black mind occupied on things that are not conducive to increasing black people's awareness and development. Although these are two very different opinions they are both very black and only a black person would be able understand and appreciate these things without me spending decades (or any amount of time) teaching them about them.
2. The interracial thing is only bothersome when it is done out of ignorance or spite or for reasons other than love. Personally i dont agree with ANY relationship regardless of race that is embarked upon for the wrong reasons.

It looks bad tanned or pale. I'm just sayin' that tanned white girls are more pleasing to look at than pale or red ones. But even they don't compare to black women. It especially looks bad when a black dude dates a white girl. Why? Because it makes him look weak to me. What's wrong with a strong sistah? I think a lot of black dudes who go out with white girls can't handle a sistah. Either that, or they believe in the stereotype of the "attitude" thing that black women are plagued with. Everyone has an attitude, it doesn't matter what color she/he is. If a black woman is with a white dude, it looks bad but not as bad, because some black women choose white dudes because they can't find a decent black dude. I just have strong views on it. Black dudes who court white girls are sell outs.

Oh yeah, I want to say one more thing. If a black women is with a white dude, he either has money or she hasn't had any luck with a black dude. There's no excuse for a black dude to be with a white girl though, because there are too many fine single sistahs out there who want a good black dude.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by Ronnie B

It especially looks bad when a black dude dates a white girl. Why? Because it makes him look weak to me. What's wrong with a strong sistah? I think a lot of black dudes who go out with white girls can't handle a sistah. Either that, or they believe in the stereotype of the "attitude" thing that black women are plagued with.

Right on! I couldn't agree more since love and spiritual/social/physical/mental/emotional compatibility have nothing to do with what makes for a solid relationship/marriage.

[lovehaiku84]

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

What's confusing about what lovehaiku typed?

I didn't understand what she meant by black guys parading white women around like prizes. What if he really likes her? I don't get it.

[Ronnie B]

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

I agree with Ronnie B to a certain extent. It does look bad/odd TO ME when I see a black man with a white woman, simply because so many black men who date white women will date them exclusively and parade them around like they are some sort of prize. I'm not down with that. However, because I come from a family that has had many interracial couplings, and as a person who is open to dating non-black men, I know that true love knows no color and I try to give those in interracial (specifically black men with other) relationships the benefit of the doubt.

Yup! They do. I think all of them do though. They do it because they had issues with some sistah they dated in the past, so then they think the grass in greener on the other side which is why they go white. To me white women are nuts. They kill their kids and chit, and then blame it on a brotha. That's why I just hit it and quit it. A black dude who dates a white girl might as well slap his mamma in the face. For real. He was made by a black woman, so he should be a with a black woman. Period.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

Right on! I couldn't agree more since love and spiritual/social/physical/mental/emotional compatibility have nothing to do with what makes for a solid relationship/marriage.

what are you cosigning to? his comment on black men who date white women are weak?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by starang21

what are you cosigning to? his comment on black men who date white women are weak?

I think she was being sarcastic.