First time writing a rec...

[UGAalum94]

I may have told this story before, but when I was a PNM and we were chit chatting on the sidewalk before one of the parties, I asked another PNM what her dad did for a living, and she and another PNM is my group exchanged knowing looks.

I was actually only asking because she had moved around quite a bit and I was curious about the career field. But it can be a really loaded question because many people take it to be about income level and social prominence even when it's not asked as such.

Looking back, I would have been better off asking, "was your dad or mom in the Army*?" if that was what I was thinking.

Similarly, I think the rec writer providing the information could give the chapter a lot of valuable information that really wasn't just a proxy for social class but that it would be helpful to provide that context, rather than just the "her dad's a doctor."

*ETA: not that everyone who moves around a lot is in the Army.

[JennRN]

Hijacking the thread for a second-

I am writing a rec letter for my cousin for this fall. DG has a form we fill out, and that was all I was going to send to the chapter at her school. However, she sent me her transcripts, a resume, and 3 pictures of herself. Am I supposed to send all that in with my form? Because I was under the impression that she would send that stuff in herself to each house. I don't want to leave them out if I'm not supposed to though! Thoughts??

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by JennRN

Hijacking the thread for a second-

I am writing a rec letter for my cousin for this fall. DG has a form we fill out, and that was all I was going to send to the chapter at her school. However, she sent me her transcripts, a resume, and 3 pictures of herself. Am I supposed to send all that in with my form? Because I was under the impression that she would send that stuff in herself to each house. I don't want to leave them out if I'm not supposed to though! Thoughts??

I can't speak for Delta Gamma, but there does seem to be some duplication at some colleges about what the girls would send to the schools themselves as they registered and what people send along with recs. I would think that the chapter would probably like those things (the transcript, resume, photos) from you even if she does submit it herself though panhellenic because, if nothing else, they'd get it much earlier. And I my experience is that I can't always put everything on the form anyway.

[FSUZeta]

pnms are not supposed to be sending personal information to specific chapters. perhaps they can send the information to the campus panhellenic office and panhellenic distributes it to each chapter, but it is the responsibility of the alumnae writing the recommendations for her to send information to the appropriate chapters.

go ahead and send in the resume,transcript and photos with your rec. form. if the chapter does not want it, they can just detach it from the rec. form.
good luck to your cousin!

[JennRN]

Thanks ladies! I am so excited for her and wanted to do this the right way! I'm hoping she'll even share her story with us come this fall-or at least let me share it for her!