Truth and your relationship

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

What about family stuff that doesn't necessarily affect your relationship at all? Would that be acceptable to hide?

If we're in a committed relationship with marriage in the future (meaning we have both decided that that will be the next step), I should be familiar with your family and where you come from. I don't think it's acceptable to hide family things because I'm going to find out eventually. Then the hiding itself becomes a bigger problem than whatever it is that you were trying to hide, because I'll be upset over the fact that you kept something from me.

[BetteDavisEyes]

How's this for honesty.

A friend of mine from high school had a somewhat "wild" past that included drinking, drugs, and random sex. She cleaned up her act, got a degree, and became a born-again Christian. She's a truly sweet woman and a great person. She dated and became engaged to "Chris" who claimed he accepted her and her wild past though he did not want any details whatsoever about her wild past. He told her they should both let it go because if God forgave her for her sins, he could do so as well. 3 months after the wedding, "Chris" files for divorce because the subject of having children right away or waiting came up and she admitted that she had an abortion years before they met. That was the one thing his beliefs would not let him forgive so he ditched her for telling him the truth.

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by BetteDavisEyes

How's this for honesty.

A friend of mine from high school had a somewhat "wild" past that included drinking, drugs, and random sex. She cleaned up her act, got a degree, and became a born-again Christian. She's a truly sweet woman and a great person. She dated and became engaged to "Chris" who claimed he accepted her and her wild past though he did not want any details whatsoever about her wild past. He told her they should both let it go because if God forgave her for her sins, he could do so as well. 3 months after the wedding, "Chris" files for divorce because the subject of having children right away or waiting came up and she admitted that she had an abortion years before they met. That was the one thing his beliefs would not let him forgive so he ditched her for telling him the truth.

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." - Mahatma Gandhi

[AKA_Monet]

If you are getting married... Like you have the date and funding set with the dress and invites have gone out...

No romance without finance is a nuisance. Debt will MURDER a relationship. And in these days, you don't want to be someone who owe the loanshark down the street vs. his/her house being foreclosed. The BS takes your taxes once you are married unless there is a pre-nupt...