Visiting Chapters Thread

62231 · #1 03-22-2008, 01:41 AM

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nittanyalum · #2 03-22-2008, 01:48 AM

Well in the whole "greek unity" spirit of things, obviously, you'd be the bigger guys to suck it up and let them come up. But a whole weekend might feel very long, I get that, I have inlaws that get about a 24-hour window here... So maybe you find some reason they can only come up Friday night and have to be gone by like 3 on Saturday or something, that way, you seem generous and cool, they get to come up and ooh and ahh about how amazing your house is (and you know you guys will love all the ego boosting

), they'll feel cool because they're visiting a "cool" house, but you really only have to deal with them for about 20 hours and too much damage can't be done in that time period (I would hope...

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#3 03-22-2008, 01:49 AM

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Originally Posted by SECdomination

How often do brothers/sisters from other chapters stop by your chapter house just to visit?
What about spending a weekend there?
Or did any of you even let them in?

My chapter just got thrown into an uncomfortable situation recently. One of our chapters from another part of the state is VERY different from my own, and about 15 of them wanted to come "party for the weekend" up here.
On the one hand, yes, they are our brothers, so we want to be courteous and let them into our home. But on the other, we probably won't like each other, so we could just tell them "no" they can't come.

I'd like to see if there's a general consensus about an appropriate course of action.

Just out of curiosity...may I ask what makes them "different"?

AlexMack · #4 03-22-2008, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by OTW

Just out of curiosity...may I ask what makes them "different"?

Their chapter is a lower tier at the other school.

PhiGam · #5 03-22-2008, 03:03 AM

Let them come and try to show them how they SHOULD be.

Leslie Anne · #6 03-22-2008, 04:11 AM

Unbelievable.

Invite them over. They might be so disgusted by the arrogance and lack of true brotherhood that they'll leave early and never want to "bother" you guys again. Problem solved.

Elephant Walk · #7 03-22-2008, 06:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SECdomination

How often do brothers/sisters from other chapters stop by your chapter house just to visit?
What about spending a weekend there?
Or did any of you even let them in?

My chapter just got thrown into an uncomfortable situation recently. One of our chapters from another part of the state is VERY different from my own, and about 15 of them wanted to come "party for the weekend" up here.
On the one hand, yes, they are our brothers, so we want to be courteous and let them into our home. But on the other, we probably won't like each other, so we could just tell them "no" they can't come.

I'd like to see if there's a general consensus about an appropriate course of action.

We've had these types before.

Absolute trash. Created alot of problems. Acting like assholes is the appropriate way to go about it, so chapters like them will hear about it and stay away.

When chapters come up for games they can be fun though. They're usually our sorts of people and we have a blast tailgating.

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Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

lack of true brotherhood

O RLY?

How exactly do you determine that they have a "lack of true brotherhood?"

Are random people suppose to be our "brothers" when we had never met them before and went through a vastly different fraternity experience as our own? Are we realy brothers? Are we really expected to treat them as such?

Zeta13Girl · #8 03-22-2008, 08:29 AM

I know the Sigma Pi fraternity on our campus hangs out with chapters all across the state. They will go in large groups to other chapter's houses for the night or the weekend and they will also get other brothers that come up and visit them as well.

As far as I'm concerned it's one weekend. Unless you are worried that for some reason their behavior may get the cops involved our jepoardize your chapter's charter (ie. partying habits)... What's the hurt in hanging out with them? Are you worried that your girlfriends will like them better than you?

fantASTic · #9 03-22-2008, 09:44 AM

I've visited other AST chapters and it was loads of fun! If an AST came around here, I'd love to have her stop in and hang out.

Maybe it'll be fun!

If you don't want them to come, you can always say that they can come hang out for a weekend but you don't have anywhere for them to stay. That usually deters people.

Zillini · #10 03-22-2008, 10:32 AM

There's something about large groups that make people go crazy and forget their manners. On football game weekends we used to invite members of the opposing campus' chapter to stay at our house. We had one too many instances of them running amok and trashing the place. We even had a few instances of some bringing alcohol into our house which is both a violation of University policy and our Inatl.

This is our home people! The house is open to alums, parents and other guests on game days. It was embarrassing! We now invite them over for our pregame meal, but they need to find other places to stay. I feel bad it came to this, but even giving out house guidelines beforehand didn't stop the problem.

DSTRen13 · #11 03-22-2008, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

Unbelievable.

Invite them over. They might be so disgusted by the arrogance and lack of true brotherhood that they'll leave early and never want to "bother" you guys again. Problem solved.

You've never had relatives (blood relatives), or really even old friends, that you didn't really want in your residence before? You're lucky. I don't know why SD doesn't want these particular guys visiting, but there are plenty of valid reasons for concern that I can think of off the top of my head ...

Usually, I feel bad when people want a place to stay and will let them --- if they turn out not to do whatever it was I was afraid of, then okay. If not, I find an excuse and get them out quick. I'm not jeapardizing my lease, my furniture, my reputation with my neighbors, my cat's life, or whatever the case may be ... And yes, I do think that all of this is relevant to SD's situation, even though I am talking about my own personal residence versus a fraternity house.

knight_shadow · #12 03-22-2008, 12:02 PM

When my chapter had a house, we had several neighboring chapters that would regularly visit. My chapter makeup was/is different from many of the other chapters, but that always made the visits more interesting.

As far as staying for a weekend -- that's a little bit much. Staying for the day is never an issue, but anything longer than that does tend to get a little bit awkward. Most of our brothers that needed to be in the area for longer than a day would either stay at a hotel or at individual brothers' homes.

RaggedyAnn · #13 03-22-2008, 12:23 PM

Since it's the first time, you don't know if you won't like each other. This could be the beginning of a great relationship. They obviously think your chapter is cool enough to visit. Maybe your chapter can go visit them some time? You never know unless you try.

Tom Earp · #14 03-22-2008, 12:50 PM

If they come, one would hope they have respect for their fellow members.

I know of a Chapter that visited a house and items were stolen.

It does not take long for the word to get out and they are never invited back again.

There used to be a lot of visitations going on and I do not know if it still does, but it is good to meet and greet fellow members. Well, unless they are asses and should be told to leave and the word put out.

macallan25 · #15 03-22-2008, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

Unbelievable.

Invite them over. They might be so disgusted by the arrogance and lack of true brotherhood that they'll leave early and never want to "bother" you guys again. Problem solved.

Loads of dumb here.

This statement is so ridiculous I won't even waste the time to address it.