I need serious advice on my relationship

[Munchkin03]

I can't say that this is a good idea. Cohabitation didn't work for me, but I'm not against it for other people. What concerns me, however, is that you'd be living not just with your man, but with someone else as well. Basically, your relationship--and all the private details of it--will be on display 24/7. Do you really want that? Do you think your relationship could survive that?

Saving money is nice, but you can do that with female roommates of your own, keeping your personal space and coming over to his place whenever you feel like it. You're only just out of school--you have the rest of your life to live with him if it works out the way you want.

[AlethiaSi]

I'm inclined to agree with everyone else that has posted. I lived with my ex-boyfriend and my best friend in a very small apartment, and while it wasn't a bad living situation, I definitely had to work overtime to please both parties, and this may or may not be an added stress that your boyfriend would be willing to undertake.
However, my ex and I did break up after living together because he went back to school and the distance was too hard, we had grown apart while living together, more as best friends that just didn't see eye to eye anymore. (just my personal experience)
I have also lived with other guys (try 7 in a house with one other girl besides myself) and it was fun, but we were much younger and I wasn't involved with any of them. It was definitely difficult to clean up after them, and had roommate fights with them from time to time (we all did).

My point is, living with other people can be difficult, no matter the circumstances and why add relationship drama to the mix? (not that there would necessarily be drama with the bf, but the potential is fairly great)

It might be better to live with some other people to split the cost in the meantime and spend time together on the regular, see how things go, he's also in grad school and you're just starting out after graduation. I know it's been a difficult transition time for me and my friends and sisters since graduation, so strengthening your relationship and working on yourself might be for the best.
Good luck!

[texas*princess]

I'm with everyone who said it probably isn't the best idea to move in w/ your guy (and his current roomie).

After college, I had a similar situation to yours - dating a guy for several years, had plans to marry, etc. but after college, I wanted my own place.

I did move in with him temporarily until I got my first gig post-school, but I immediately got an apartment of my own after that.

I did spend most of my time at his place after I moved out and had a section of the closet, a toothbrush, etc, like OTW mentioned, but it was nice to have a retreat of my own b/c since we were both right out of college he had a smaller apartment and sometimes I just wanted to be on my own for a little bit.

I will also say that 3 or 4 months after I moved into my own place, we ended the relationship .... so having my own place didn't make it all awkward whereas if I was living with him, I probably would have had to move out at that point. I'm not saying that your relationship is doomed, just saying it was nice to already have a place of my own and not suddenly be forced into that position, ya know?

If you absolutely need to save money (or live in an insanely expensive area) get a female roomie and move into your own place.