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Originally Posted by pinklion10
Who knows. My guess would be that she would like to spend time with the girls in my house (because a lot of us are friends with her), but... who knows.
We have a girl that has denied a bid from us several times, has not pledged any other house, but keeps coming to our events anyway - she said she wants to spend time with us. And since the events are open, there's not much we can do about her.
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Yes, there is. Tell her to stop coming to RECRUITMENT events. They are for
PNMs. If she has already declined a bid (or several - ???) she is no longer a "P" anything, she shouldn't be coming around to rush events where you want to focus your time and attention on women who have serious interest in your house. Didn't this already get covered in another thread with you?
Consider the damage she can do while at your events. What if she starts chatting with other rushees and mentions how she's been bid (several times - ??) but didn't take it. What kind of impression will that make on others? And how does it look that you all just keep letting her come around anyway, even to what are essentially closed events (I realize you're having "open houses", but again, they are for RUSH, not just for anyone to stop by and have a snack and a chat).
Why would anyone think they need to go through the bother of pledging, paying dues, going to meetings, serving on committees, doing philanthropy, etc., when you all will just let people "who want to hang out with you" do just that, enjoy your chapter and your sisterhood without taking on ANY of the responsibility of real membership?
Sometimes being "selective" will increase the perception that your chapter must be "worth" joining. Cut off the moochers and let other women who really want to be a part of your house know you're serious about building your sisterhood with active members.
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