deadbear80's niece's recruitment story

[deadbear80]

And we have our 1st update!

DBN--Deadbear's niece started Open Houses today. They went to 4 houses: NYU, Emory, U of Chicago, and Case Western. The remaining 4 (Rochester, Wash U, Brandeis, and Carneige Mellon) she'll see tomorrow.

She thought NYU and EMORY were very similar chapters, however she thought Emory was a little more put together and she got a nicer feeling about their house as a whole. She thought at both chapters conversation was a little fake and forced, but she realizes that Recruitment conversations can be a little forced and repetitive (as we all know as well!).

DBN knows girls from U OF CHICAGO since one went to high school with her. I think DBN had high hopes from this chapter since she knows girls in this house and gets along well with the girl she went to high school with. Sadly, it seemed to let her down a little. DBN attributed her feelings to being put in a corner while she was there. It definitely made her uncomfortable. She did say, however, that she would be willing to give them a second chance since she does like the girls she knows in the house.

DBN last visited CASE WESTERN. She thought it was the least impressive of the 4 houses she saw today, but she thought it may also have been that she was really tired. At DBN's school, they started classes this week and have Recruitment on top of it--so I'm sure both the PNMs and the chapter members are in for very long days and nights! At this house one girl she was talking to seemed to keep trying to pawn her off to girls she had already talked with. It turned DBN off a bit. DBN also thought each girl in the house kept feeding her the same canned line about sisterhood and being involved and how much they loved their house. DBN said that while it was probably true--it was hard to hear the exact same thing for a half-hour over and over again; especially with it being the last house of the day.

Hope to have more for you hungry rush-story-feeding folks tomorrow!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by deadbear80

DBN attributed her feelings to being put in a corner while she was there.

We were always told as actives to never put the PNM in a corner. I thought that was pretty universal recruitment etiquette at most schools. Maybe the sister forgot (which is easy to do).

[SWTXBelle]

Nobody puts DBN in a corner! (sorry, couldn't resist)

[indygphib]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Nobody puts DBN in a corner! (sorry, couldn't resist)

Aw! You beat me to it! Great minds (or warped, whichever,) think alike!

[scbelle]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Nobody puts DBN in a corner! (sorry, couldn't resist)

I guess we're all riding the warped-mind train, then. When I read that in the post, that's the quote I immediately thought of. I can't wait to hear more!

[deadbear80]

We have another update...although sadly it's not very good. I was hoping DBN would give me more detail when she sent me an email today; but she didn't.

DBN visited the remaining 4 houses (Wash U, Brandeis, Carneige Mellon and Rochester) yesterday. It seems as though she had a good time at all 4 houses. I'm sure after the first set of Open Houses she knew more of what to expect.

The next round of parties isn't until Saturday, but she will apparently be getting her schedule tonight. She can go back to a maximum of 6. I don't know which 6 she ranked as a #1 (She had to rank 6 #1, 1 #2 and 1 #3); but you all will know when I do! I'll hopefully be able to give you an update on which ones she gets invited back to tonight.

It's so hard to be waiting and waiting for information and then not get much from her! Now I know how all of you Moms feel when waiting for information from your daughters. I don't know how you guys do it!

Overall, I think DBN is just hoping for a full schedule and lots of choices. I did remind her that it's not about a full schedule--it's about finding someplace you click (and you only need one!).

[FSUZeta]

LOL- i feel for you deadbear. it is agonizing to have to wait and be at the mercy of the pnm!! i think that it is just that they are so tired and overwhelmed, but it is still hard on us.

i hope that niece gets invited back to all her favorites !

[deadbear80]

Thankfully my niece FINALLY decided to get back to me!! She didn't tell me how she ranked last round, but I at least got some info. from her. I wish she'd be more detailed in the emails she sends, but I can't tell her I want the info. not just for me but my GC friends--she'd freak out!

A full invite list from this round was 6; but DBN only got asked back to 3 houses. Apparently, 3 or 4 is actually quite normal for girls to get and DBN didn't seem to be too disappointed. If she was, she didn't let on when she told me.

She was invited back to CASE WESTERN, WASH U, and BRANDEIS.

I didn't get much info. out of her other than the fact that she enjoyed all 3 houses today. Despite the experience she had at CASE WESTERN last time, I think this round they seemed to improve in her eyes.

I haven't gotten a chance to ask her how she felt about not being asked back to U of CHICAGO where she had friends. I felt like that wasn't something I wanted to bring up at this point.

I'm fairly certain that PNMs can attend a maximum of 4 next round (which is on Monday). Let's just hope DBN still has these 3 next round. She finds out tomorrow where to go on Monday. *Fingers crossed*

[carnation]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

LOL- i feel for you deadbear. it is agonizing to have to wait and be at the mercy of the pnm!! i think that it is just that they are so tired and overwhelmed, but it is still hard on us.

LOL. I hardly heard from 3 of mine until rush was over and then there was our oldest--who lit out for her new sorority house and didn't call for several hours. Arghhh!

And here are the moms and others who care hoping they're having a good time and worrying that their hearts are getting broken.