"Dropping" your girlfriend (with a twist)

[ForeverRoses]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

Okay, so someone help me out here. Given my feelings about letters, why do I think it's okay for a girl to wear her boyfriend's letters? I hate it when I realize I have double standards.

I think the hang-up is that when it is a female wearing a guy's letters you know she isn't really a member. You can't tell when it is another female.

And I know this might open up the whole double stitched block letter debate, but I don't have a problem with a girlfriend wearing a sorority lavalier or a date party tee-shirt or something, but a block letter shirt is something different. I guess if it is something that might be given to a non-member to wear it would be okay, but a member's only thing (like a block letter sweater) I might have a problem with.

Then again, I didn't really like it when my sisters wore their boyfriends letter sweatshirts around either. I guess it seemed TO ME like they were putting their boyfriends letters above thier own (by wearing someone else's letters).

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

Then again, I didn't really like it when my sisters wore their boyfriends letter sweatshirts around either. I guess it seemed TO ME like they were putting their boyfriends letters above thier own (by wearing someone else's letters).

I know exactly what you mean - it always kind of got on my nerves when girls wore their boyfriend's letters ALL THE TIME but only wore their own letters when they HAD to (i.e. rush, Greek week events etc).

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

Then again, I didn't really like it when my sisters wore their boyfriends letter sweatshirts around either. I guess it seemed TO ME like they were putting their boyfriends letters above thier own (by wearing someone else's letters).

Thanks, that put it into perspective for me. I didn't think of it before, but I just realized that even though I was lavaliered in college I personally never wore his letters while other lavaliered girls did. Looking back I think it would have felt strange and wrong somehow. (Although they wouldn't have actually been his letters since he's a Fiji.)

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by Ilaria Ame

oohhhh, i didn't think that was allowed! i know in LPsiD, we are open to all women, but we specify that a relationship with another sister is grounds for forced deactivation (of both members). it's just too messy.

For the most part, Greeks are adults and should behave as such. I realize that doesn't always happen though, so if a relationship fizzled out between two members of the same organization, I can imagine it would be pretty tense for a while. But, I gotta say, if Theta Nu Xi ever forced the deactivation of sorors who were in a relationship with other sorors, I might have to rethink my decision to join the organization because it certainly wouldn't be the sorority I thought I was joining when I pledged.

On the overall topic, non-sorors don't wear letters, so I can't imagine it being an issue. However, I would completely understand a "Theta Boo" t-shirt.

[Ilaria Ame]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

For the most part, Greeks are adults and should behave as such. I realize that doesn't always happen though, so if a relationship fizzled out between two members of the same organization, I can imagine it would be pretty tense for a while. But, I gotta say, if Theta Nu Xi ever forced the deactivation of sorors who were in a relationship with other sorors, I might have to rethink my decision to join the organization because it certainly wouldn't be the sorority I thought I was joining when I pledged.

On the overall topic, non-sorors don't wear letters, so I can't imagine it being an issue. However, I would completely understand a "Theta Boo" t-shirt.

i'm not sure i'm saying the right thing when i say "deactivate". i'm referring to going inactive, but not actually leaving the organization. anyway, i'm pretty sure that as long as members were discreet and mature, this wouldn't REALLY happen, at least not in the group of women i talk to the most, but the rule is there as a backup for bad situations. that's only my speculation, though. i can't really speak for what the founders were thinking when they made it.