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Old 12-29-2007, 01:53 PM
DSTCHAOS DSTCHAOS is offline
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Let me know how the dating scene is when you are 40+ hitting the mid 20 dating scene...

Anyways, she did go to my family's dinner the other day. She was very "girlfriendish" while there, especially since there were some unrelated to her events that took place that lowered my mood considerably. We continued to talk when we had the time in between family time and what not. I also decided to get her a small gift for Christmas anyway.

Well, Christmas day rolls around and surprisingly the first "Merry Christmas" text I recieve that morning is from her. I text her back returning the wishes and continue opening gifts with my family. A few hours later she texts me again and the following takes place...

Her: Lets get back together.
Me: You serious?
Her: Yeah
Me: (sitting in disbelief and slightly overjoyed. About 5 mins pass)
Her: Is that okay with you?
Me: Yeah! Don't mind me I'm a bit speechless right now.
Her: I love you. Sorry for being difficult.

And that, folks, was my Christmas day! I was bouncing off the walls for most of the day. We actually spent most of the day together yesterday apartment hunting (for her), a brief trip to the Botanical Gardens, and a movie that evening. An overall good day.

I do realize that there is a LOT of work that needs to be done between us but things are going in the right direction. Thanks to everyone that was a listening ear and for those that gave supportive words.
You're 40+ or was that a joke?

Eh...to be honest I don't feel the least bit sorry for you. You're going along with everything she has done. Did you even tell her about herself or lay down some "rules" regarding what you will no longer tolerate?

Now she contacts you on Christmas day to get back together and you're ecstatic. That was a couple of days ago. Save the happiness for when she proves herself consistent.

Stop letting her dictate the goings on in your relationship. You aren't a pawn to be used and discarded at her choosing. Her timing doesn't have be your timing. You shouldn't have been so available to her. As someone previously said, always maintain a life of your own. I suggest exercising more and finding other hobbies. Let her be the one trying to find when you are available.
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Old 12-31-2007, 01:42 AM
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Dang Soror Meanie...LMAO...give em a break....let that man be happy his boo is back in his life...you are harsh....lol.....


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You're 40+ or was that a joke?

Eh...to be honest I don't feel the least bit sorry for you. You're going along with everything she has done. Did you even tell her about herself or lay down some "rules" regarding what you will no longer tolerate?

Now she contacts you on Christmas day to get back together and you're ecstatic. That was a couple of days ago. Save the happiness for when she proves herself consistent.

Stop letting her dictate the goings on in your relationship. You aren't a pawn to be used and discarded at her choosing. Her timing doesn't have be your timing. You shouldn't have been so available to her. As someone previously said, always maintain a life of your own. I suggest exercising more and finding other hobbies. Let her be the one trying to find when you are available.
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Old 12-31-2007, 01:46 AM
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Harsh, but she is right. Damn, girls are so . . . just girls. If it was a girl that posted this mess on here no one would be suggesting to give the boyfriend time, or to wait it out, they would be telling her to kick that baggage to the curb . . maybe after setting it on fire. . .


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Dang Soror Meanie...LMAO...give em a break....let that man be happy his boo is back in his life...you are harsh....lol.....
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Old 12-31-2007, 02:07 AM
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Damn, girls are so . . . just girls.

I know, right? Ugh, barf.
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Old 01-01-2008, 12:42 AM
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Harsh, but she is right. Damn, girls are so . . . just girls. If it was a girl that posted this mess on here no one would be suggesting to give the boyfriend time, or to wait it out, they would be telling her to kick that baggage to the curb . . maybe after setting it on fire. . .
Yep and I don't believe in double standards (99% of the time).

pssst...are you talking about "girls" or "women?" I don't think "girls" (and "boys") should be dating. Too young.
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