I lost my son KAP Jr.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

Final post, because I am mentally exhausted from this whole ordeal:

The baby was due October 20, but was overdue (though I did get two text messages from my ex on October 25 saying she was in labor, but it turned out to be a false alarm). They had to induce labor on her via C section on November 8. I was later told the baby died 15 minutes after its birth. I went to the hospital on the day the child was due, but the hospital staff said she hasn't been admitted (I later found out she or someone else put an NRI (No Release of Information) on her file, so I couldn't witness the birth).

Between 11/8 and 11/23 I am in mode because I have NO clue what was going on.

I actually got an email on November 23 from my ex's cousin stating "I am so sorry about the baby" I didn't know what she was talking about, and without being presumptuous, I ask for details, but the cousin wouldn't say. The news wasn't confirmed until December 6 when I pressed for details on what was going on. She later admitted she assumed one of the ex's daughters broke the news to me sooner. btw, I didn't mention it on November 23 because while I suspected the worst, I didn't want to prematurely announce the worst, especially if it turned out to be false.

Yes, I did see my ex on December 1, but when I tried to get official confirmation, she said she didn't want to discuss it (and she was extremely depressed).

THAT is why the timing doesn't line up. The baby was late, and the communication of the news was late because nobody would talk to me or answer my questions at the time the events originally occured.

THAT is the entire story. And I feel I shouldn't have to give you so much detail.

P.S. The baby was conceived around January 20 (give or take a day or two), making October 20 a full 9 months. I get the news about a month later, but didn't formally announce it until March (I was in disbelief--o well).

Undoubtedly someone here is gonna analyze and scrutinize the details someone in this post. O well, have at it. I'm not going to go over this anymore.

There's the story!

The more you post, the more holes appear in your story. You need to just quit posting.

[KAPital PHINUst]

I gotta make this post, because FWIW, it actually made this trainwreck of a thread all worthwhile:

Dear 12dn94dst

Thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Your kind words and true discerning heart and spirit has been one of the very few things that has actually put my soul at ease over this whole ordeal.

This has been a very challenging year to begin with, but your message to me while short and simple, spoke volumes to my heart. I cannot thank you enough.

You're right, I am in my 30s, but I am still trying to fight like I am in my 20s. And what for? Life is too short for such madness.

Curtis Armstrong said it best in the movie Risky Business: "Sometimes you gotta say, 'What the fu[ss]'" This is one of them.

Thank you again for your words of encouragement. It alone is worth 1,000 GC condolences posts.

See you on the boards!

Sincerely,

KAPItal's PHINUst.

[12dn94dst]

Originally Posted by KAPital PHINUst

I gotta make this post, because FWIW, it actually made this trainwreck of a thread all worthwhile:

Dear 12dn94dst

**scratching my head** was this REALLY necessary?

doin too much, dude. doing ENTIRELY too much.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by 12dn94dst

**scratching my head** was this REALLY necessary?

doin too much, dude. doing ENTIRELY too much.

Awww, you got a new BFF.

[12dn94dst]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Awww, you got a new BFF.

i KNOW! ain't it grand?

[AlphaFrog]

This is one of those threads that's going to go down in GC history - like Gamma Chi, recruitment's Recruitment thread, and mshoole's AI pursuit.