Would you rather...

SthrnZeta · #1 12-11-2007, 04:42 PM

I would much rather go to a place that loved me then be with girls who didn't really want me around - that makes you a loser and nobody wants to be a loser. You can always warm up to your group later and it's a lot easier to do if you're in a welcoming environment.

Good question, AF, even if it is potentially unoriginal.

KSUViolet06 · #2 12-11-2007, 05:25 PM

I'd go with the group that wanted me, hands down.

I'm just going by what I'd rather deal with. I'd rather have girls making an effort to get to know me, than have an entire sorority not even bat an eyelash to say hi to me on campus. That would suck.

It's easier to get to know and like people who want you around. It's not so easy if the entire sorortity is just "whatever" about you, because then you'd constantly feel like you have to try really hard and that's exhausting.

AOII Angel · #3 12-11-2007, 05:41 PM

It's really a moot point since we don't get that kind of information when we accept our bid, but I'd probably go with the chapter that I wanted to be in whether or not they wanted me as badly as I thought they should. Over time, I'm sure I'd win them over. Not to mention, chapters do change over time, and the girls who may not have wanted me will probably not be there much longer. From my experience, there are few spots given to women that the entire chapter doesn't like. If ten women in the chapter don't like me during rush, who cares? There will likely be ten women in any organization that don't like any given person in their chapter...it's human nature not to like everyone!

erica812 · #4 12-11-2007, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

It's really a moot point since we don't get that kind of information when we accept our bid,

Normally, you don't get that info, but sometimes it is clear how you got your bid. I received a phone call a few minutes before Bid Day activities offering me a bid to a sorority after I had not matched anywhere the day before. I knew exactly how I ended up on that list, and I felt terrible about it. Feeling sorry for myself, I declined, but I often wished that I had put aside my pride and joined those new sisters!