My Sorority Pledge? I Swore Off Sisterhood

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by LPIDelta

Yup--people suck. And its worse when its "family". While I don't blame her for what happened--she was lucky that she wasn't raped--I do agree with others that it is unfortunate that she is still feeling this way about women after 20 years, a career as a lawyer and while raising daughters. For the sake of her daughters, she should get some therapy. Brave of her to share her story, but I don't know how appropriate it is to do so in a national publications.

If she doesn't figure this out soon, what will she do, heaven forbid, if one or more of her daughters wants to join a squad, a team or *gasp* a sorority?

So far this is the only post that states she wasn't raped... why is everyone else posting that she was?

Ledge parties, for those of you who didn’t attend party-school universities, featured fraternity boys luring their unsuspecting companions to a lair of choice, where they engineered some semblance of sex for the viewing enjoyment of their voyeuristic brethren, who watched from the window’s ledge.

So the guys made it look like they were doing the deed, but they in fact were not, right?

That doesn't make it any better but everyone is saying she was raped, so that's kind of confusing.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

So far this is the only post that states she wasn't raped... why is everyone else posting that she was?



So the guys made it look like they were doing the deed, but they in fact were not, right?

That doesn't make it any better but everyone is saying she was raped, so that's kind of confusing.

This is what she said before that. It seems he took it farther, because she was unconscious.

"I indulged, partied hard and, a scant two months into the semester, lost my virginity.

But not in the traditional way.

It happened after a fraternity barn dance. All I knew about my date was that he was festively inclined and physically stunning. My sisters considered him a catch. I felt lucky.

After the usual alcoholic overindulgence, I followed him upstairs, where I soon passed out on his sofa. There, I assumed the starring role in a garden-variety “ledge party,” my deflowering on display for anyone desiring a peek."

[LPIDelta]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

This is what she said before that. It seems he took it farther, because she was unconscious.

"I indulged, partied hard and, a scant two months into the semester, lost my virginity.

But not in the traditional way.

It happened after a fraternity barn dance. All I knew about my date was that he was festively inclined and physically stunning. My sisters considered him a catch. I felt lucky.

After the usual alcoholic overindulgence, I followed him upstairs, where I soon passed out on his sofa. There, I assumed the starring role in a garden-variety “ledge party,” my deflowering on display for anyone desiring a peek."

Yeah, I misread that the first time--I thought it said that it was stopped BEFORE any inappropriate contact, but I am not reading that now. Ugh. How sad. I hope, for her daughters, she does something about how she is feeling.

[AKA_Monet]

I have felt alienated from several of my sorority sisters. I have always been that oddball, that march to the tune of a different drummer--mine. It's liken to you either love me or you don't. What hurts about this woman's case is that she thought she was past her pain, and it came crashing into her with recognition. And at the time of "confession", the "you know that was college"--that was the time to bust homegirl's bubble. You have no reason to crush her reality, but how come superwoman felt the need to "recognize Kathy Dick!" As if she discovered a long lost treasure?

That is why one has be mindful of what he or she says to one another...

ETA: My mother use to work with a secretary. Oneday, her secretary's hifalutin' friend strolled in the door and wailed about how well she knew the secretary and how they grew up and was happy to see her, saying that she was the most popular woman in the world and how the hifalutin' friend was envious of her. After the hifalutin' friend left, my mom's secretary proceeded to tell her, that when she got home, her mother would lock into a closet and physically abuse her...

[SoCalGirl]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

So far this is the only post that states she wasn't raped... why is everyone else posting that she was?



So the guys made it look like they were doing the deed, but they in fact were not, right?

That doesn't make it any better but everyone is saying she was raped, so that's kind of confusing.

In the article she mentions losing her virginity then proceeds to explain her blackout and the ledge incident.