Bad situation with Big.. what would you do?

[trideltrockstar]

I also had a bad experience with my big. We never spoke really, I never talked to her online or on the phone, I didn't even have her cell number. She ended up desisterizing a semester later. She was extremely shy, and not a mean person by any means, but we had nothing in common and would never have been friends. She didn't even tell me she was desisterizing, she didn't even tell us in chapter or send an email to the chapter...they just told us point blank and that was it.

I ended up getting adopted by another sister shortly afterwards, and now that I am a senior all the younger members think that she was always my big and don't even know about my first 'real' big.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by trideltrockstar

I also had a bad experience with my big. We never spoke really, I never talked to her online or on the phone, I didn't even have her cell number. She ended up desisterizing a semester later. She was extremely shy, and not a mean person by any means, but we had nothing in common and would never have been friends. She didn't even tell me she was desisterizing, she didn't even tell us in chapter or send an email to the chapter...they just told us point blank and that was it.

I ended up getting adopted by another sister shortly afterwards, and now that I am a senior all the younger members think that she was always my big and don't even know about my first 'real' big.

please tell me that is a phrase you are using and not something that is in your chapter's vocabulary.

[kathykd2005]

Originally Posted by tld221

please tell me that is a phrase you are using and not something that is in your chapter's vocabulary.

I'm fairly certain that for all NPC sororities, the term is technically "deactivating."

[AnchorAlumna]

The term, for us anyway, is "resign."

[KappaKittyCat]

Originally Posted by AnchorAlumna

The term, for us anyway, is "resign."

Same here. We do say "depledge," though, to refer to the termination of membership for a non-initiated member.

[sageofages]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

I'm fairly certain that for all NPC sororities, the term is technically "deactivating."

In our case, it is NOT known as "de-anything". It is known as "relinquishing membership" or if still a Phi, then it is "breaking a pledge".

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by kathykd2005

I'm fairly certain that for all NPC sororities, the term is technically "deactivating."

In Tri Sigma, the term for an initiated member who officially resigns is "termination".

I believe if a new member leaves, it is termed "depledging."