I hate my boyfriend's fraternity

[KSUViolet06]

This happens sometimes. My Big's boyfriend is a Delta Chi and I've heard stories about the girlfriends they don't like.

If these guys are saying rude things to you, you need to let him know so he can address the issue with his brothers. They don't have to love you, but they should not be calling you names. If he won't stick up for you and let them know that's not cool, then honestly, do you really want to be with him?

Also something to put this in perspective, he won't be an collegiate fraternity member forever. Eventually he'll graduate and the whole hanging around the house thing will be a non-issue (except for special occasions and alumni events).

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

If these guys are saying rude things to you, you need to let him know so he can address the issue with his brothers.

I agree that her bf needs to know what his brothers are saying to her. However, I think she should address the rudeness herself before sending her bf in. Then, if the brothers don't respond positively, her bf should approach them. But it's her battle first.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

I agree that her bf needs to know what his brothers are saying to her. However, I think she should address the rudeness herself before sending her bf in. Then, if the brothers don't respond positively, her bf should approach them. But it's her battle first.

The dudes say obnoxious things in the background when they're on the phone. Her boyfriend knows that they're saying things, even if he doesn't know everything they're saying to her all the time. The fact that he lets just a little slide, let's me know that he doesn't value the relationship and is immature. He should've cussed them out years ago and worked on salvaging his relationship rather than trying to keep the peace with his fraternity brothers (who probably aren't his friends, anyway).

[texas*princess]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Also something to put this in perspective, he won't be an collegiate fraternity member forever.

While this is true, I think you should probably make an effort to get to know the guys in your bf's fraternity.

What is it about them that you don't like? Are they mean to you?

I didn't read the whole thread, so I don't know if you're a freshman, soph, etc, but even if it's only a couple of years left, this is something you have to deal with if you want it to work.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by texas*princess

I didn't read the whole thread, so I don't know if you're a freshman, soph, etc, but even if it's only a couple of years left, this is something you have to deal with if you want it to work.

I'm guessing from this post that she is a junior.

I'm also wondering from that post if her problems with her boyfriend's chapter may stem, at least in part, from some impressions she has made in the past (and may still be making).