Drop out or be persistent?

[UWO_2007]

I know, but I'm not initiated yet, so I put future... I love my greek family... we all went to dinner last night before our fondue party.... I can honestly say even if I would not have gotten in, I think I would still end up being friends with this group....

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Psst, you're a new member right? They're not your future sisters anymore

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by UWO_2007

I know, but I'm not initiated yet, so I put future... I love my greek family... we all went to dinner last night before our fondue party.... I can honestly say even if I would not have gotten in, I think I would still end up being friends with this group....

Congratulations! That's what really counts. I'm happy for you.

[UWO_2007]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

Congratulations! That's what really counts. I'm happy for you.

That was one of the reasons they stayed my#1 all week... I just got the feeling like no matter what... they'd still be there.... if I made it into their sorority or not... they were honestly genuine....

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by Green+White

I am currently a new member. Everything is all good except for one thing. I have two young children who I bring to chapter meetings, which people didn’t seem to mind at first. Then, we had our pledging ceremony, the president made my kids leave the room. I thought she was being quite rude. They cannot stay outside in the halls by themselves, they are too young. That defeats the purpose of bringing my kids to chapter meetings, I might as well leave them home alone.

Since then, some of the actives told me that my children are a distraction and they don’t belong at the meetings. They also said it is inappropriate to bring my kids to parties. Dear son and dear daughter are very well behaved. I don’t see what the problem is.

The actives are wearing on my nerves, sometimes I debate if I should even stick with this sorority. On the other hand, I’m really enjoying myself. What can I do to persuade the actives to let me bring my children around?

You have a lot of nerve to think this way. I'm in a grad (or alumni) chapter and plenty of the women are married with children but they don't bring their kids to chapter meetings and events all the time and definitely not to rituals and ceremonies. I can't believe you are so selfish. Do the feelings of your future sisters mean anything to you? My advice is to wait until your children are older or until you can get a babysitter and pursue the sorority at that time.

[Buttonz]

While I was active, we had two sisters with kids...including one that gave birth right after she was initatied. Both girls brought thier kids ONLY and I repeat, ONLY in an emragancy. Kids have no right being at a sorority meeting. Once in a blue moon, ok but every time? No way.

At times they had to miss events because of thier kids...once again, very rarely and in a blue moon.

Really, if you can't afford a babysitter maybe you should re-think paying dues

[UWO_2007]

it's amazing how she doesn't see the point.... regardless of if they accept your kids or like your kids... IT IS NOT THE PLACE FOR CHILDREN... and honey... I'm older than you so maybe in a few years, you'll see where everyone else is coming from too....

Oh, and my son wears Tommy, CK, etc.... brand names has nothing to do with race...

[bejazd]

Wow UWO....I've nearly earned my 25 year member pin and you are a new member...and we both have kids the same age! (and by the way, congrats and welcome to Gamma Phi Beta!!!!)

Kinda pointless to argue with the OP on this one. I love that Gamma Phi Beta is big enough to have a place in the sisterhood for women in many stages of life, includng motherhood. UWO...I hope you'll keep us updated on your membership experience and how you balance sisterhood and mommyhood...two of the best things in life! Good luck!