Very Confused

12dn94dst · #1 09-19-2007, 01:18 PM

sweetie, SLOW DOWN! you have at least 4 more years to do the things you're aspiring to do. get your grades up and keep them up. become involved in other campus activities and research the orgs you're interested in on their national websites and in your campus greek life office. develop or fine tune your time management skills not just what what you think you want to do, but for life.

I REALLY do not understand what this obsession is with trying to do it all so quickly. being in a fraternity or sorority ain't all it's cracked up to be.

ok, yeah, it is. but give it time. it will happen when it's supposed to happen and not a second sooner.

lovelymaiara · #2 09-19-2007, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by 12dn94dst

sweetie, SLOW DOWN! you have at least 4 more years to do the things you're aspiring to do. get your grades up and keep them up. become involved in other campus activities and research the orgs you're interested in on their national websites and in your campus greek life office. develop or fine tune your time management skills not just what what you think you want to do, but for life.

I REALLY do not understand what this obsession is with trying to do it all so quickly. being in a fraternity or sorority ain't all it's cracked up to be.

I know it seems that way. I've never really been active ever before ( which made getting into college hard) so I don't want to miss out. I also have a hard time meeting people and makeing good friends because I may have SAD, so I'm really trying to change in college.

Fleur de Lis · #3 09-19-2007, 05:06 PM

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Originally Posted by lovelymaiara

I know it seems that way. I've never really been active ever before ( which made getting into college hard) so I don't want to miss out. I also have a hard time meeting people and makeing good friends because I may have SAD, so I'm really trying to change in college.

Kudos to you for wanting to try new things and seeing college as a fresh start! As someone who was a major over-committer in high school, being overly involved doesn't help anyone. You end up stressed out with tons of people you know, but fewer friends. Then you are burnt out and no better than when you started! I would focus on one group that meets your particular needs, which seem to be academic pursuits, community service, and sisterhood. An *existing* service group or GLO could meet these. Through one group, you can get leadership experience and end up meeting people in other groups as well. You don't have to cram every hope and dream into the next four years - enjoy the fun of college and start small! Good luck!

texas*princess · #4 09-19-2007, 07:15 PM

I agree with whoever said it's possible to do all of them, but don't pledge all of them at once.

That would be pure madness.

lovelymaiara · #5 09-19-2007, 07:28 PM

Thank you for all the advice. I am no longer confused

AlwaysSAI · #6 09-19-2007, 11:44 PM

I'll just throw out there as a person who is in two GLOs and very active in both at the undergrad level:

It's a lot! I have trouble handling it and I pride myself on time management. For example, on Sunday, I have PSP at 5p-6:30ish and SAI from 7p-9:30ish. That's a lot more meeting that most people like to sit through. Tonight, I had an SAI rush party at 8p that ended 5min til 9p. Interviewing of prospectives began at 9p, so I ran over to that room and made it just in time. As soon as that was over at 10p, I had to run to work and work til midnight. This Sunday, I have to skip my Phi Sig meeting at 5p because I have a mandatory SAI event from 5p-7p.

But, you know what. I started doing it all when I had my feet firmly planted on the college ground. And, oh by the way, the members vote on you....so, you might not get an invitation to join all three.