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Originally Posted by Army Wife'79
I have been made to feel guilty by peer parents for not watching my son (when he was in HS) at every practice and game. It is HIS hobby, HIS sport, not mine. I don't make him watch me quilt for 2 hours a week which is my hobby. I attended 2 games a year just to show support but the other Mom's thought I was almost abusive for not going to the games. I had the entire team over for dinner senior year which is a lot more effort than sitting in bleachers!
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I'm certainly not going to call you abusive, but I think there is a
big difference between being a helicopter parent and going to my kids' games. If my son was playing football or basketball or whatever, I'd be at every game -- not because I thought he couldn't do it without me or needed my help (the marks of helicopter parents), but because I would want to watch him play.
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I watched D at her yearly dance recital but certainly didn't watch every practice (which other Mom's did as they had one way glass and chairs set up to watch the girls). I think we are way too obsessed with our kids today and that's why they turn into "boomarang kids" and move back home when they can't function in the real world.
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I would never watch all the dance practices (or sports practices) either. But where I live lots of parents stay and watch the practices because there really isn't time for them to go anywhere else.
I can vouch for my two parents who never missed a game, recital, play or whetever that any of us were involved in, and they were about as far from helicopter parents as parents come -- their job, as they saw it, was to render themselves unnecessary.
Support =/= hovering. It's all in how it's balance.
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