Huge problem with transfering into a new chapter...HELP!!

texas*princess · #1 09-05-2007, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by giggle528

well i mean like..yeah i know things take time. but just like i dont even talk to half the people at my old school. i was only there for a year. only in it for 2 months and i dont talk to half the girls because they never talk to me. my prez has never even heard of the school i am right now let alone know that the even had my sorority. I called them first to ask what to do, b/c i mean i had no other choice, my president wasnting calling me back, nor was the prez here, i didnt know what to do..so i called them to ask them what to do. i then heard nothing back, so i had my mother do it, because classes had started. I mean i really dont have to justify myself. yeah, its life....things happen, but i didnt just spend 300$ on something that I cant continue...i've witnessed ritual, but i have no business telling others, nor do i care for it. finally when i did get in contact with my prez, i told her that this was unfair and i was going to join another one, because she was being so irresponsible, that she wasnt doing her job(didnt really say that, just thought it). because seriously she wasn't.i basically knew i gave her a month do it..i filled out the form myself..sent it to her through e-mail...it takes 2 seconds to re-send it to my new school.

i mean i dont really wanna leave this sorority...its exciting being part of something, but if nothing is happening, i have to do whats best for me..ya know?
i just dont know what to do...

1. You cannot join another sorority.
2. Is there really a reason your mom is involved? You're a big girl.
3. Paperwork takes a long time to get processed. Your HQ has to process the initiation paperwork on every single girl that went through the new member process last year. Be patient. Technically you are a member of this sorority whether they have gotten around to sending you your pin or not.
4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

giggle528 · #2 09-05-2007, 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by texas*princess

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4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

Ohhhh gotcha..how do you figure out which one ur advisor is tho? because i talked to the transfer lady at my HQ.

i mean like should i introduce myself tomorrow to the girls? or just wait it out? because if HQ is giving me the option to re-rush..then im going to.

cuteASAbug · #3 09-05-2007, 12:32 AM

HQ will not give you the option to rerush.

giggle528 · #4 09-05-2007, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

HQ will not give you the option to rerush.

...they told me that on the phone...there are exceptions to everything..

cuteASAbug · #5 09-05-2007, 12:39 AM

They told you that you can't rerush or that you're the exception and can?

giggle528 · #6 09-05-2007, 12:46 AM

just like since everyone had been really irresponsible, and no one was getting back, and the fact that none of my paperwork was sent in and that i never got my badge, and that if i dont hear back, and then i can go ahead and re-rush. the lady on the phone was like "uh huh..we understand..we understand..im sorry this is happening" she sounded a little afraid..haha

im just afraid..with girls being girls..ill get screwed over. but it just sucks, because i love being in a sorority. being part of something like that..i just really enjoy it. and to not be able to do it, really saddens me. people will say "well then y did you leave your school..or why didnt u depledge..thats the responsible thing to do" A) i HAD to leave my school..hated it..they didnt have my major, thought rushing would make it better, it didnt" B) i would of depledged seriously thought about it, but i heard about so many people transfering and switching into other chapters, etc..that i thought it wouldnt be such a difficult deal.

cuteASAbug · #7 09-05-2007, 12:49 AM

What are you looking for here? Is it permission to rerush? Fine then, go ahead and rush again. But who's to say the same thing won't happen to you again? What if you pledge another sorority and then they don't send in the paperwork for you to headquarters?

UGAalum94 · #8 09-05-2007, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by texas*princess

1. You cannot join another sorority.
2. Is there really a reason your mom is involved? You're a big girl.
3. Paperwork takes a long time to get processed. Your HQ has to process the initiation paperwork on every single girl that went through the new member process last year. Be patient. Technically you are a member of this sorority whether they have gotten around to sending you your pin or not.
4. If your president is not being responsive contact the chapter advisor. If they are not responsive, try the regional director.
5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

Well said.

OP, if you are showing the attitude to the group that you are showing here, it's really no wonder than people aren't willing to help you. Let's be honest, would your group on your new campus have the impression that you are eager to be an asset to their chapter and assist them, or that you are kind of a high maintenance, demanding person who sees herself as entitled to service from the group and who relies on her mom to handle her issues.

And yes, if your are going through the national HQ, the new chapter may be aware of how you are acting.

Further, depending on the chapter and the group, your transfer into the new chapter may not be automatic, and you could really be shooting yourself in the foot.

And I happen to think that if you had your membership in your group on facebook, that yes, people at the new school are going to remember and look into the situation further. I doubt it's as simple as re-rushing. You know you've been initiated; your old chapter knows you've been initiated. There's no way you could be a good member of a NPC group if you would disregard such a basic element of membership.

Quit acting like the group revolves around you. It's a shame they didn't send in the paper work faster and provide you with better "customer" service, seeing as that seems to be how you see your role in the group.

giggle528 · #9 09-05-2007, 05:53 PM

ok, i dont want the group revolve around me. HQ wasnt happy at my prez either...it wasnt just my mom and I. As i've posted before, NO I WILL NOT RE-RUSH because now papers are at this new school. and i now know whats going to happen next. Its my right to stay on top of it, it was her job to do it, and SHE NEVER DID IT...i was patient waiting for her to do it, I would e-mail her asking if she had filled it out. I never got a response from her, but then the next day i would get an e-mail from her saying "Hi ladies, schools starting, greek life is letting us help freshman move in, etc, etc" but i never got an answer from her whether or not she filled it out. so i assumed she was ignoring it, because she wasnt even giving me an answer as to whether she filled it out or not. so i called HQ and they did it before me like i said before.

you would be on top of something like this too if u were in my position...

UGAalum94 · #10 09-05-2007, 06:05 PM

Um, no. While I would be interested in expediting the process, I would understand that formal recruitment season and the start of school wasn't really the time to be getting my mommy to call my IHQ.

And had you not mentioned your interest in re-rushing, I'd be a lot more sympathetic, but really your posts make clear what your priorities are: you, you, and more you. And a GLO might not find that so charming in an affiliate member.

Remember that although you feel a great sense of urgency about affiliating, it's really not going to kill you to wait until it get straightened out.

giggle528 · #11 09-05-2007, 06:09 PM

well now its all straightened out..and im waiting.

gphiangel624 · #12 09-05-2007, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by texas*princess

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5. The "Greek LIfe people" are not the advisors. They are merely the people who work at the desk in the Greek Life office. The chapter advisors are the alumnae volunteers that advise your individual chapter.

I agree that this post was well-said, and I agree that a Greek Advisor has a MUCH different role than a chapter advisor or alum volunteer. But keep in mind that the campus Greek Advisor should have some connections to the national office and should have some (even a little) leverage to get in touch with the chapter and have them get in touch with you about this situation. I'm not speaking for every GA on the face of the earth, but most should have these capabilities and should be willing to help you out. GAs do have resources to help with chapter issues and can at least point out where to locate chapter resources when necessary. We don't exist to "merely work at a desk"