UIUC Rush Story

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

also, why should i respect alumnae of various chapters not even my own??

I would have sent this in a PM except that you blocked PMs.

I'm surprised no one commented on this. Believe it or not, all 26 NPCs work together to make guidelines and rules that are fair.

If something happens to your house, be it a fire, the lost of a sister, or someting else, not only are your sisters there for you, but the Greek community as a whole.

Just because people where different letters, we all stand for the same thing.

"No matter the letter, we are all Greek together"

[33girl]

Wow, just wow.

Never thought I'd do a Balki Dance Of Joy that my sorority's chapter at UIUC is dormant.

[scbelle]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Wow, just wow.

Never thought I'd do a Balki Dance Of Joy that my sorority's chapter at UIUC is dormant.

LOL at the dance of joy!

[hannahgirl]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

um, yeah, no one's getting an apology. i don't really care how many t-shirts you have, if you spend your days as an adult criticizing people on GC, i think that's pretty sad.

Either she is not an adult (because she has proven herself to act like a 5 year old) or she feels that being a college student keeps her from entering the adult world. Unfortunately for her, the minute you are 18 you're called an adult. Oh and wait....you've criticized enough people on GC and off throughout this whole thread.

Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by mystikchick

Honeychile, you have so much graciousness even when pointing out the unfortunate attitude of the OP that it's truly wonderful. You are amazing.

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

I have gained additional respect today for Honeychile's Kappa mama. You can always tell when someone was brought up right.

Thank you both so very much - y'all are just TOO SWEET! Just to clear things up, though, my grandmama was the Kappa. My parents eloped when my daddy got drafted, and married women weren't allowed to pledge sororities back then.

But I'll be sure to pass the kind words on to my mama - you were surely raised right, too!

Originally Posted by xoheatherxo

i know im going against everyone on here and am going to get crap for it, but i honestly think we should leave her alone now and stop adding fuel to the fire.

I agree. She already has enough on her plate to think about, and anything from here on in is redundant. I do have enough faith in her chapter to see her true colors prior to initiation.

[tri deezy]

that was the most dramatic thread i've ever read in my life. i wish that one with the identical twin in a southern school with the pink frills and stuff kept posting! that was the best thread ever with those cliffhangers. she kept saying "but there was that one thing..."

regarding this thread- chill out! everyone! refer to the thread where people state the stupid/shallow/funny reasons they dropped or kept houses when they rushed. some of them sound pretty shallow and now they're all GCers. I remember being incredibly shallow during recruitment!

[ASUADPi]

I've read this whole thread and I have to agree, I think we should lay off LMV. Yes, she said some incredibly shallow things during recruitment, but I can't say that had I gone through formal I might not have been shallow as well. The school I rushed at (and the school I transferred too) had about 13-14 houses when I joined, I wouldn't have been able to remember much, but those "shallow" things (i.e., what the girls looked like). It doesn't make me a bad person, it makes me human. While, yes, I don't think she handeled her thread appropriately being bluntly honest, she has every right to be bluntly honest. We just aren't used to that on GC. We are used to PNM's being "sweet and kind and not rude". The reality check of this, not every PNM is like we are used too.

Critizing her and demanding apologies from her just, as someone pointed out, "adds fuel to the fire". People from GC keep ragging on her, she comes and behaves even more inappropriately, but at this point, we (on GC) aren't behaving to appropriately either. And I'm not calling anyone out by name, I'm saying GC as a whole, because as a whole there are way too many people to name that have behaved badly in recruitment threads.

For me, even though she is a junior transfer, she is still 19-21 (I say that because we don't know how old she was when she started college or when her birthday is). I know I was still pretty immature and stupid at those ages. And I'm everyone took a step back, they would "see" that they too were probably pretty immature and stupid at those ages as well.

I'm sure someone will flame me for this, but whatever.

[PenguinTrax]

OK, I think things have gone on long enough. Refer to the forum TOS - if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it. That goes for everyone regardless of age.

The insults regarding age, interest in Greek life, etc. are stopping NOW. If LMV is not going to reveal what, if any, bid she received, the purpose of this thread has ended. Let's move on...

[alum]

Originally Posted by PenguinTrax

OK, I think things have gone on long enough. Refer to the forum TOS - if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it. That goes for everyone regardless of age.

The insults regarding age, interest in Greek life, etc. are stopping NOW. If LMV is not going to reveal what, if any, bid she received, the purpose of this thread has ended. Let's move on...

I agree with what Barbara said a page ago. This is degenerating into vitriolic attacks on both sides. All of us are old enough to know better.

[IlliniMeg]

LMV - I'm happy for you that you have found a home on campus and that hopefully it's where you wanted to be. I also do hope that you really take it all in during your fraternity education. Lifetime commitment is one of the best things about joining a sorority. Unfortunately too many members think it is only there for them during their 4 years on campus.

I'm not going to speak for everyone, but I'm still involved in my sorority and I was initiated in 1996. I happen to work with other chapters on other campuses than mine at U of I but it doesn't mean that I don't care about that one as well. I put a lot into my sorority experience and I got a lot out of it, it helped form my self-development, gave my confidence to do things I never thought I'd have the courage to do, and allowed me to feel at home with a campus of 36,000 people. Not to mention the connections to my chapter's sisters but the amazing amount of women I've met throughout North America, young and older, who I'm proud to call my sisters. I believe in my ritual and I've lived by the values in my ritual my entire life (most if it without knowing that those were my sorority's values). I hope that the experience I had, albeit not perfect and rocky, is still available for collegiate women to continue to have for years to come.

I know that without alumnae volunteers sororities will not exist so I will devote my time for the rest of my life. I hope I do see you active on GC in the years to come and caring about the life of your sorority and all greek life

Make the most of your experience, it will reward you thousands-fold.


The recruitment adviser at my chapter on campus is one of my best friends but I'm not going to ask about junior transfers.

[dukemama]

Originally Posted by littlemissvixen

1. Vanilla Birthday Cake
Through Facebook stalking beforehand, I found out that a girl from one of my classes last semester, who was beautiful, down-to-earth, smart, and whom I had a pretty good bond with, is in this one! Although I pretty much had an open mind to all sororities, it made me like this one more. During open house, I had a nice, non-awkward conversation with two girls. They are all very pretty; definitely above average. They were definitely in my top 10, but pretty even with other houses to come.

2. Waffle Cone
Ugh, I was dreading going to this house. A crazy, malicious, very confrontational girl I knew from high school was in it. I was worried that she would come up to me or the girl I was speaking to and make some rude comment. My Gamma Chi informed me that her doing that would be a huge violation of the rules. In fact, she is a senior and was not even at open house (Thank God!). The girls were ok, but I felt like I was carrying the conversation the whole time. Granted, it was one of the last few on a long, hot Saturday. These weren't girls I could see myself being close with.

3. Sweet Coconut Milk
Not to be shallow, but you only have 25 minutes to see the girls during open house, and they did not leave a good impression. First, they violated some of the rules "When you come back on Sunday (for first invitational)..." and generally seemed desperate. I heard that they were talking to PNM's about being the PNM's bridesmaids (????)... Very strange. Although a few were cute, most had unkempt hair, no makeup, and chipped/unmaintained toenail polish. I spent 3 hours getting ready in order to try to make a good impression and look my best, and these girls looked like they just rolled out of bed and didn't care. Many girls in the house are Jewish and I am not, so I would feel a little left out in that respect.

4. Melon Daiquiri
They had a beautiful house, but it smelled bad on the inside, and the girls were nothing special. They talked about television alot, which frankly is not a good way to get to know someone, especially if you all like Grey's Anatomy and Desperate Housewives. I wasn't too impressed.

5. Empowermint
Um, I don't know why I listed this- this is the engineering sorority. Maybe I'm missing one? We didn't go around to see this one.

6. Frozen Lemon Custard
The conversation with these girls was nothing special, and they weren't particularly pretty. I just felt bored in this house.

7. Mimosa
Alot of girls seemed to love this house, but I didn't. The girls in the house talked about how they fell in love with it and each other right away, so that further enforced me thinking it was not for me. I wasn't too thrilled with their ill-fitting embroidered polo shirts and big fake pearls, either. They had a complicated and well-rehearsed dance. They didn't make my top 10.

8. Red Delicious Apple
Again, a pretty popular house, but not for me. The girls that I talked to bored me to death by talking about running marathons and working out. Interestingly enough, they didn't look particularly toned or sporty. The other PNM with me loved talking about marathons and stuff too. I didn't talk very much or care to talk very much in this house. Boring. They did make my top 10, but only by process of elimination.

9. Strawberry Milkshake
Gorgeous and fun girls!!! This was the last house I went to Friday night, when I wasn't at all excited to be dragged through yet another sorority. However, their energy was contagious and I found myself laughing and genuinely having a good time. I've heard from several different sources that they ONLY take freshmen (I imagine that they are quite popular and definitely have a choice), so I'm not getting my hopes up. They were definitely on my top 10!

10. Senorita Margarita
I came in with high hopes for these girls. The valedictorian from my high school, a year older than me, is in this sorority. She is completely gorgeous, but obviously very smart. She is also SUPER sweet! When I came to a mostly sophomores and seniors speech class as a scared freshman in high school, she turned around in her seat to talk to me and make me feel comfortable. Although they were very cute, my conversations with this group weren't great. They made my top 10.

To be continued... I have to go to class!

Wow, just wow.

Doing everything possible to bite my tongue before I say something REALLY nasty...and I'm not even Greek

[melongirl]

Is this for real? This seems a little too nasty (even for being a naive poster/pnm) for a real experience.

Sounds like someone undercover for an anti-greek writing assignment.

[xoheatherxo]

after reading her post i was totally shocked. i dont think many groups take girls just because they are pretty. i know ours didnt. you had to have a special something to add to our sisterhood. maybe rush is different at that school?? all i can say is wow. i kinda wanted to hear what the parties were like, how she felt about philanthropies, normal stuff like that. im totally shocked by this poster.

[violetpretty]

If she wants to be shallow, let her be shallow. She'll get what she deserves.

[xoheatherxo]

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