Thanks for your encouragement. I know in my head that you are very right. My heart is just not there yet.
I certainly understand!
From the beginning, I did encourage Susie to finish out the process. She withdrew before talking with me. She did say her counselor, whom she liked very much, agreed that withdrawing was the thing to do if Susie truly felt the way she said she did.
The counselor was wrong. Sounds like she was either poorly trained or had a lot going on.
How does the fact that Susie withdrew from rush effect her opportunities to pledge a later time?
If she waits until next fall, being an upperclassmen will affect her chances. Some simply won't consider upperclassmen, or only ones with ties already in place. Unless things change, Auburn, unlike Alabama, does not have a "free upperclassmen quota." Many of the groups do NOT automatically discount sophomores and above, but the ones they pledge often have friends inside the groups.
Hey, groups DO lose a few new members after Bid Day, and often discreetly replaces them with COB girls. It's usually somebody they know.
Please don't think poorly of Susie's counselor. There is a very good chance of misunderstanding between Susie and the counselor and/or Susie and me.
So, the fact that Susie withdrew from rush does not eliminate her from open bidding? I do realize that she has to sign up for open bidding, if she is interested.