2007 UGA Recruitment

AU_ZTA86 · #1 08-16-2007, 04:31 PM

So the girls getting snapped/COB'd will know who 'wants' them before the other PNMs get their bids??

33girl · #2 08-16-2007, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by AU_ZTA86

So the girls getting snapped/COB'd will know who 'wants' them before the other PNMs get their bids??

no, I meant the groups will be deciding who they want to snap and COB.

UGAalum94 · #3 08-16-2007, 05:24 PM

There's never any stigma to receiving a COB bid, as far as I know. And if you are a pledge on bid day, almost no one will even know you were a COB bid verses a regular match.

But since only smaller groups do COB, I'm afraid that there is a little stigma from the groups' end about having COB events.

I think that's why there's rarely any sense of spring recruitment, even when more than one group is COBing.

It's often kept kind of quiet unless you are participating in it.

AnatraAmore · #4 08-16-2007, 06:10 PM

Wishing all the girls the best!!! (And hoping for some results soon!!!)

WarEagle07 · #5 08-16-2007, 06:19 PM

on pins and needles here...........hopefully we'll hear soon!

UGAalum94 · #6 08-16-2007, 06:22 PM

One of the serious upside to parents writing the threads and posting is that we won't have to wait (at least in theory) for the celebrations to be over before we hear.

Or at least I hope this is the case!

hollywin · #7 08-16-2007, 06:32 PM

Congrats to all the girls whose wishes came true for them.

My daughter is in her dorm room sobbing all alone. She was hoping for a open bid, but time I guess time is running out for her. It is so hard for us moms, especially those who were in sororities at UGA, to see our children so hurt.

UGAalum94 · #8 08-16-2007, 06:38 PM

I'm sorry Hollywin.

I wish that rho chis were more forthcoming with PNMs thinking of dropping that very few get open bids.

The only real reason that a girl at UGA should ever drop is that she would rather not be Greek than join the groups she has left. The chances are far too slim that she will get picked back up by groups that have released her to make it worth taking the chance.

I'm not saying that it doesn't happen every once in a while, but it is so extremely rare as to not make good sense.

(I don't know how many girls who re-rush as sophomores improve their results; that's a totally different issue.)

We'll have to wait to see who might be COBing.

ETA: I was looking at last year's results here, and while I doubt everyone completely reported the number snap bids that their groups gave, of all the girls last year accounted for on GC, only 15 were reported as snaps out of the 1200+ girls who rushed in 2006.

kathyc · #9 08-16-2007, 06:43 PM

cluelessugamon,
How did everything turn out???

hollywin · #10 08-16-2007, 06:51 PM

She only had one left when she dropped out and she new that the chances of pledging there were slim. I think she dropped just so as to avoid the humiliation of saying she was cut out.

GammaPhiUGA · #11 08-16-2007, 06:54 PM

I'm so sad reading the posts from the Moms whose girls have had their self-esteems crushed by this process. It all sounds so familiar to me, nearly 10 years later, I still remember sitting in a hallway at the Tate Student Center crying to my Mom because I thought I wasn't pretty enough. "Of course you're pretty!" she said. And my response was, "but not pretty like these other girls." I was down to 3 parties at the last round and I wasn't interested in pledging the sororities I had left. (In retrospect, two of the houses probably would have been absolutely great for me, but due to preconceived notions and listening to the way some girls made fun of those sororities, no way was I going to join. I was just as shallow as those girls at the other houses who had cut me.)

However, there was life, and life-abundant for me after Fall rush. Even if I had never pledged a sorority I would have had a fun college experience. But I did go through rush again in the spring, and pledged Gamma Phi Beta. I had a great experience with it and loved how many different types of girls there were in my sorority. I felt very comfortable there and met some wonderful people. I continue to meet wonderful people now through the organization, and keep in touch with friends from my chapter. I married my college sweetheart (who I met at a sorority/fraternity social) and we've been married for four years.

Even though it seems like this is the end of the world for some of your daughters (and believe me, I understand why they feel that way) please tell them that the girls with full party schedules are not necessarily the ones with full lives. It's impossible not to compare yourself to the ones who got bids, but sorority rush is looking for such a narrow definition and in the crazy process, it is impossible to see the true beauty and full picture of someone.

So what I'm saying is, while sorority life is not meaningless, the rush process is completely meaningless!!! Your daughters are beautiful and I wish I could be there in person to comfort each and every one of them.

Kitty3928 · #12 08-16-2007, 07:06 PM

I am so sorry... but she will be fine. It is hard for us moms especially as we are not there to comfort them. From personal experience, my daughter was always just fine after she cried to me. I was the one at home worried about her and she had "unloaded" and things were better for her.

Hope your daughter has a good schedule and has met some good friends through all of this.

jwmills · #13 08-16-2007, 07:21 PM

I completely understand what your daughter is going through right now. Two years ago I was in the same position. I was told that I was going back to a certain house and that they would see me the next day and then that day didn't come. Even worse, my roommate got into the sorority I wanted to be a part of. Though I am still saddened two years later everytime rush rolls around and when I see sorority pictures and t-shirts, I know it's not the end of the world. I am now young and married and that would have never happened if I had joined a sorority. I love my life and I love my friends. There is life after rush. Please feel free to contact me or have your daughter facebook message me. I would love to talk to her and tell her my experience. I know it helps hearing it from someone your age...it helped me. I am still a student at UGA so I'm in town. I am so sorry for your daughter's situation...I wouldn't wish it upon anyone b/c I know exactly how it feels. Tell her to find someone on her hall and go to dinner...have a girls night and forget about Milledge Ave.

Much Non-greek love!

cluelessUGAmom · #14 08-16-2007, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by hollywin

Congrats to all the girls whose wishes came true for them.

My daughter is in her dorm room sobbing all alone. She was hoping for a open bid, but time I guess time is running out for her. It is so hard for us moms, especially those who were in sororities at UGA, to see our children so hurt.

While I of course feel such compassion for your daughter my heart goes out to you tonight. As a mom I know only too well that your pain will last longer than your daughter's. But, while hers is so sharp tonight I pray and hope that she has some friends there at UGA already that will help her get out and move on!

I know that my daughter tonight went to dinner with one of her friends from HS. That friend and most of her other friends did not rush. And she told my daughter tonight right before the bid meeting that she and all her other friends that didn't rush would be there for her either way tonight. That made my daughter feel so good so I hope yours will seek out her friends, if not tonight then for sure tomorrow.

And, for you, if I knew you and lived near you I would have you over for lots of wine tonight!!!!! So I hope you seek out your supporting friends too! I will be thinking positive for you both!

Mama Dawg · #15 08-16-2007, 09:14 PM

I am amazed at the outpouring of love and support found here. Baby Dawg is off to a pledge party. No, she wasn't thrilled and screaming and jumping for joy...her first choice, my sorority, cut her after 3rd round. But she has been reminded (thanks so much to my two sorority sister/best friends KathyC and you know who you are reading this anonymously) that being a sister is about so much more than the letters you wear. Sure, we were all terribly proud to be "in the bond", but what I wanted most for my girl was to have the special relationship I have with these two women.

Talking with an ADPi neighbor who was at College of Charleston, she agreed. Your sorority sisters, and especially your pledge sisters have a special place....two of hers were in her wedding and are still close today.

We've encouraged her to get to know her sisters and pledge sisters...to give it a chance...to get involved and experience all that this can be. She will know if it is right for her, in time...not in just one night or even in one week.

BFF's daughter was cut from our sorority at Auburn and it turned out to be the best growth experience of her life. She pledged another, stuck it out, fell in love with the sisterhood, and she is now an exec at her chapter and may even be the next President! Who would have known? I call that turning lemons into lemonade!

And, I love the way that all of us here, and all of the women in my community who wrote any letters of rec have supported each another and our offspring. We've prayed for them, hoped for them, crossed our fingers for them and cried for them...

I hope that if your baby girl has not ended up in a sisterhood...that she was cut or dropped out...and that if she desires the Greek experience, she will make it known. There are apparently opportunities for joining. Remember, this is more than just a 3 or 4 year experience...it can be a lifetime bond if you wish.

No, Greek isn't right for everyone...but if someone is right for Greek, they should have every opportunity to be included.

Sorry to be longwinded, but it's been a long, tiring week for all parties involved. Best wishes and dreams...