Raining on someone's recruitment parade

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

I understand that -- I'm questioning AlphaFrog's understanding of an SEC Rush.

See, here's the thing - I've never been through an SEC Rush, I've never visited an SEC campus, and I don't plan to, but I do understand that 1400 girls divided by 9 or so sororities means that somewhere along the line, there's going to be some heavy cutting and huge heartbreak. Great women are going to go bidless, and not for lack of trying. Simple math and multiple heartbreaking SEC Rush threads here on GC will give you enough understanding that a woman is not the dregs of society if she doesn't make it into an SEC sorority, and it's not the end of the world OR even the end of university life if it doesn't happen.

Now, please, find something else in my post to question. I do so love it when you attempt to be snarky. It's highly entertaining.

[NutBrnHair]

I know you respect those who say what they think.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

I know you respect those who say what they think.

I do. However, questioning my knowledge of topics that have nothing to do with anything. I was not claiming to be an expert on SEC, rather pointing out that the mother in this particular situation probably didn't understand that her rush was 1000 times different than her daughter's rush.

[melongirl]

To further add "what ifs"...

talked to a greek friend who was in my sorority at an SEC school in the 70's. Her subdivisions is full of transplants from other parts of the country.

She spoke to two mothers in her subdivision over the weekend whose daughters were rushing at Auburn. The mothers had already picked the sororities for the girls before they set foot on campus. The mothers only secured recs from certain houses and had "tent talked" their daghters into only certain houses before they got to campus.

My friend said when she "enlightened" these transplanted mothers, the look of horror on their faces were priceless. She said it reaffirmed to her its better to let your daughter decide to go where she feels comfortable.

P.S. none of these girls went into prefs with a full card of invites. (ie they didn't maximize their options)

I find this a disturbing trend.

p.s. these mothers weren't greek & didn't have a legacy connection to pass on.

[leesek]

A few years ago, my daughter and her best friend went through recruitment at different SEC schools. Friend's recruitment was the week before my daughter's. EVERYONE thought Friend would just sail through....she is cute, outgoing, smart,etc, all the things one would think all the sororities would be fighting over. My daughter is also cute and smart with lots of outside activities but is somewhat shy, so I was a little worried. As it turned out, friend got dropped by all sororities for pref after attending 6 parties the day before. Of course her Mom and family, she was a legacy, were devasted ( much more than she was) they wanted to go get her and bring her home to attend a school closer to home this was a trend in their family even in grade school. So, my daughter goes into her recruitment scared to death by Friend's experience. She had a great time, called me after Open house just ecstatic about the fact that she was able to go into each house and carry on conversations with strangers!!!! She decided that if her experience ended up like her friend's she was already a winner because "I just didn't know if I was going to be able to do it or not!"
My moral.... some parents don't allow their children to fail at anything, they always try to bail them out. I on the otherhand think that it is better for children to learn that you will not succeed at everything always and it is better to learn to acept your disappointment with class and learn from all experiences weather they are good or bad!!
Also my daughter did find a home, it wasn't her first pick at the time. But it was the right one for her!!!