Auburn University Rush--Fall 2007

Momto2gals · #1 08-11-2007, 06:27 PM

I know that no one can tell me the EXACT reason the sororities cut her but I was just hoping for and idea of what to do.
Isn't it true, that sometimes a lot of the girls that pledge drop out of the pledge class before initiation and then that sorority can have more members join? Is there a chance she would then be picked up?
Also, during COB, if she lets the girls in her dorm that pledged the particular sororities that she wanted (about 5 of them she would really be happy in) know exactly HOW interested she is in joining one of those sororities wouldn't that help her chances of getting a bid during COB?
I am just wondering if maybe her shyness hurt her and the sororities didn't think that maybe she was interested enough in them?
Should I just go ahead and tell her to put the two down on her pledge card and take whatever she gets? Is being in any sorority better than waiting around to see if a particular few will express interest in you again?
Thanks
You are really helping me out with my sanity here.

KSUViolet06 · #2 08-11-2007, 06:32 PM

I wouldn't bank on her being picked up if someone drops out of a sorority before initiation. That usually doesn't happen. Sororities at Auburn don't usually add to the pledge classes if someone drops.

Her best bet is to stick it out through formal recruitment and see what happens. There are so many girls who stick it out in recruitment and end up very happy that they did so, because they end up LOVING their new sorority!

With the number of girls going through, there might not be very many sororities doing COB. Keep in mind that if she stays in recruitment and does not receive a bid through formal, she is STILL eligigble for COB if there is any.

Best of luck!

SWTXBelle · #3 08-11-2007, 06:37 PM

I cannot speak specifically about Auburn, but it has been my experience as both an active and alumna advisor that very few girls drop out of pledging. If the sorority is at total, even if pledges drop out they will not COB.
IMHO, her best bet is to see recruitment through to the end. She can only pledge ONE house, so all she needs is ONE house. As long as she doesn't absolutely hate the two houses she has left, I'd be willing to bet that she would be happy in either of them.
Please remind her that there are two houses on the campus who obviously think very highly of her. It's easy to get caught up in the ones who cut you - but focus on the two who really like her.
If she is shy, it may very well be that some of the chapters thought she was not interested. I cannot say - but please assure her that there is still a place for her. As was stated earlier, if she doesn't get a bid at all, she can still COB.
I wish her the very best of luck. I know she is crushed - but she is lucky to have a mom who is so concerned. Tell her we are all rooting for her to find her new sisters - hang in there!

UGAalum94 · #4 08-11-2007, 06:38 PM

It just depends on which of the groups the five she is interested in are.

The majority of the groups at Auburn will be over total, I think, once they have their new members classes, which basically means they will have no room to offer your daughter a COB/COR bid.

Other groups may have room because they are below chapter total. I think that the number of groups who do COB/COR is probably pretty small, and that if your daughter's favorite groups are also other rushees favorites groups, it's unlikely that they will be the ones to COB/COR.

On the other hand, if your daughter still likes her two groups, remember that if she gets a bid from one of them, that's the maximum that any girl can get.

Will her recruitment counselor tell her which groups did COB/COR last year?

AuburnMom · #5 08-11-2007, 08:24 PM

I was away from my computer for the entire day...

First, Momto2gals, I am sorry about the hard time your daughter is having at Auburn's rush. I hope that today went well for her and that she will be invited back tomorrow (for pref) to the 2 sororties that she attended today. I wish I could help you more, but the only advice I can give you is to encourage your daughter to stick with it and let's see what happens with the 2 sororities she's still attending!

I will keep my fingers crossed for you and for your daughter!

AuburnMom · #6 08-11-2007, 08:32 PM

she was invited back to 6 parties today for skit round.... yeah!!

She went back to

Austria
Ireland
Netherlands
Belgium
Italy
Monacco

2 out of her top 3 sororities from last round invited her back for this round. She was thrilled! I haven't talked to her since this morning so I don't know how the day of skit parties went. I am anticipating her call anytime and I will update with her feelings about today at that time.....

AUmom · #7 08-13-2007, 10:20 AM

There are 16 panhellenic sororities. I can tell you that the most popular ones are VERY VERY competitive. Auburn's recruitment usually starts with 1200 girls and only about 50 or so are kept for each sorority (that's l/2 of what they start with).

Yes, it is not uncommon for girls to quit their sorority before initiation (which is a must if you want to get into a different one) or they do not accept the bid. Accepting the bid and going through initiation make it nearly impossible to go through COB.

The sororities base their cuts on what the prospect can do for their group, their standing in their own community prior to coming to Auburn, what they are already involved in at Auburn (cheerleader, dancer, etc.), and how they do at Ice Water Teas. How is the girls personality and how does it mesh with the group?

Yes, COB is only for the sororities with openings (and there are always some openings in your lower echilon sororities).

Some are better than others (locally), but I won't go into that.

mystikchick · #8 08-13-2007, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by AUmom

Accepting the bid and going through initiation make it nearly impossible to go through COB.

Um, wouldn't going through initiation make it COMPLETELY impossible to go through COB?

AUmom · #9 08-13-2007, 10:41 AM

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Originally Posted by mystikchick

Um, wouldn't going through initiation make it COMPLETELY impossible to go through COB?

Um, yes.

Pardon the eternal optimist in me.

Momto2gals · #10 08-11-2007, 07:33 PM

Thank you all so much for your help. I don't even have any idea which two parties she went to today. Her Pi Chi didn't know (or didn't tell her this morning) I guess she found out when she went to pick up her schedule which was right before her first party which was at 3 I think. I haven't heard from her yet either so I am kind of worried about how it all went. She said of the 4 she had been to during Philanthropy she was going to drop out of rush if one of the two wasn't such and such. I am going to try to convice her to stay in and accept a bid from whomever. It sounds like her chances for COB aren't guaranteed. I appreciate all the help. You have all calmed down MY nerves quite a bit!

UGAalum94 · #11 08-11-2007, 07:37 PM

How your daughter feels is really normal, but it's important that she try to give the groups that want her a chance. Unless she's sure that she'd rather not be Greek than join the ones she has left, she should probably just see it through.

Not that my experience is particularly wide or well-informed, but I don't think that most girls at SEC recruitments get snap bid or COBed by their first round (or even second round) favorites if these groups released the girls early on.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #12 08-11-2007, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Momto2gals

Thank you all so much for your help. I don't even have any idea which two parties she went to today. Her Pi Chi didn't know (or didn't tell her this morning) I guess she found out when she went to pick up her schedule which was right before her first party which was at 3 I think. I haven't heard from her yet either so I am kind of worried about how it all went. She said of the 4 she had been to during Philanthropy she was going to drop out of rush if one of the two wasn't such and such. I am going to try to convice her to stay in and accept a bid from whomever. It sounds like her chances for COB aren't guaranteed. I appreciate all the help. You have all calmed down MY nerves quite a bit!

No offense but she certainly shouldn't just accept a bid "from whomever" if she doesn't want to be there. Leave the spot for someone who actually wants it.

WarEagle07 · #13 08-11-2007, 08:12 PM

-Tell her to hang in there! I only had 1 party on pref day and I ended up getting a bid to the one sorority that not only liked me but that I really liked also. If for some reason it doesn't work out in her favor, I know it will be hard. But I am a firm believer of the old saying ' when one door closes and other door opens'. That door usually opens sooner rather than later and usually it leads to something better. However, you can only accept one bid, so one invitation is all you need!

elainebenice · #14 08-12-2007, 02:15 AM

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Originally Posted by AXiDGirl10

You've received great advice to pass on to your daughter, Momto2gals. I really hope that she stays in it until the end. Best of luck to her! I'm hoping for the best.

Also, Elaine, I'm sorry that it seems to you like your sister & her friend are having such a horrible recruitment. However, I happen to think that getting invited back to 5 sororities at an SEC recruitment this close to bid day is great! You need to tell her this and stop being so negative. You need to keep her spirits high and tell her how awesome it is to have 5 sororities like her this much, rather than dwelling on the ones that cut her. I mean, there are tons of other girls who would love to be in your sister's position (who may have gotten cut from all of the groups or have less choices than your sister). Please be more encouraging to her. As others have said, this is an SEC recruitment --- it is extremely competitive! Just because your sister has been cut by some groups, doesn't mean that she isn't stellar. But the thing is, there are hundreds of stellar girls going through recruitment at Auburn. I happen to think that ALL chapters at SEC schools (even the ones that may be considered "bottom tier" chapters) would be considered excellent and top chapters at other schools around the country. That's just the way it is. Anyway, best of luck to your sister & her friend, and I really do hope you give them more positive thoughts rather than negative, and I hope they stick it out til the end. If they keep much more of an open mind, they could end up very happy on bid day.

And I'm so glad that AuburnMom's daughter is having a good recruitment and likes most of the chapters that she has left. That is a great sign! I'm glad she has kept such an open mind.

Good luck to all the girls at Auburn still in recruitment! Please stick it out til the end. You may very well end up where you belong, even if you don't see it right now.

Actually, the things you have said are the EXACT things I have been telling my sister, however, my sister isn't on this message board and this is a thread about the progression of the Auburn recruitment process this year, not a "rah, rah" thread. I am expressing MY feelings about what has been going on, NOT my sister's. Actually, I shouldn't use the word "expressing" and probably use "venting" to more acurately describe what I am doing. I'm sorry if you misunderstood or thought I was posting a transcript of my conversations with my sister, because that couldn't be farther from the truth. I'm not sure if you have read this entire thread or just based your comments on my one post, but I assure you I am very aware of SEC recruitment and all that comes along with it. I also assure you that I wouldn't be on this board if I didn't love my sister and want the very best for her. I know the very best thing for her concerning rush is for me to use this board as an outlet for my frustrations and save my "rah, rah" speeches for my conversations with her. I appreciate your extreme positivity, but I think you should probably use it to encourage the people in this thread who really don't know what this process is all about.

Momto2gals · #15 08-12-2007, 06:33 AM

My daughter is already looking forward to all of the other non Greek organizations that she can join at Auburn. I am hoping that she will not be let down in those areas also as she is wanting to be very involved. She has a lot to offer in any organization really. I am wondering if she doesn't get a bid this week if once she joins some of those other organizations and gets active on campus the sororities will see what they missed by chosing her and she will get a bid later on because they will see that she could be a valuable member to them. I realize of course though that the quota thing may keep them from being able to offer her a bid. I believe that Auburn needs more sororities so that more girls will get a chance to join. What is y'alls feelings on that?
P.S. Holding my breath here until about 9:00 am when I call her to see what happens today!
Let's just say she gets invited back to those two parties today, what are her chances of getting a bid?
She said she talked to a lot more girls at each party yesterday and they were taking her around the room repeating her name over and over. Is that a good sign? She said that she TOLD them she really loved their sorority and felt like she fit in and was at home with them. Will they remember that?