Is it time to change who we think of as legacies?

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by PGD-GRAD

Some of you are kidding yourselves by thinking that elevating yourselves to chapter advisors local alumni chapter officers will make a difference when your daughter/other relative legacy goes through. If you are talking large Southern schools, it will not mean beans. You all know that some chapters have configured themselves as all "Old South", etc.

I can speak of a girl who had personal letters from BOTH the current president and former president of her mother's sorority. (And I am speaking of a huge national.) Her mother had actually helped found a chapter of her GLO at a local college and was currently main advisor. Add to that that the chapter at the school the girl was attending had a field rep. there to help them because that particular group had "ended up 3rd choice on too many girls 1,2,3 choices in final parties. The girl in questions had nearly 1400 SAT, tons of activities, was beautiful and articulate, had been a deb at a Junior League ball, etc. BUT---she was FROM TOO FAR NORTH!!

S0--ladies--if letters and calls from your own national don't guarantee an invite back to prefs., nothing else you can do will.

And that's the kind of stuff that I just think is jerky all the way around. Here's a girl who should be an outstanding potential new member, but the local chapter decides to have an attitude and say that she's not a good fit geographically? That's junk.

It's not that I think her mom's involvement should make the difference, but that the organization is probably not being as true to it's founding principles and ritual if they are rejecting well qualified members to take someone who "fits" with them on a hometown level. That's not the point. Even the groups founded in the south have chapters outside the region.

And conversely, if the national group has a problem with who the chapter is choosing, they should address it systematically, not just because on influential pnm got turned down. Yes, membership selection belongs to the active members of the chapter, but they shouldn't be allowed to subvert the values of the group for stupid reasons and tank the chapter overall. You should need to see one particular girl get turned down before you catch on that something weird is going on.