Letters of Ref,help needed

[owlie33]

oh.... wow.

2 Questions -- isn't it to the chapter's benefit to have info on every girl going through recruitment? Wouldn't this help the chapter target PNMs and get to know them before recruitment?

Why not just point the PNM in the right direction, where she can meet an alumna?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by owlie33

2 Questions -- isn't it to the chapter's benefit to have info on every girl going through recruitment? Wouldn't this help the chapter target PNMs and get to know them before recruitment?

Many chapters and Greek systems do not use recs at all. Some don't even have basic info (i.e. grades, class year etc) until rush actually commences as the women can keep signing up until the day rush starts. Plus, it's hard to "get to know" someone just through an info-only rec.

The posters who have been here for a while have been burned sometimes with trying to help people. Nancy Newbie might not see anything wrong with writing some nice girl on the internet a rec, or sending her to an alum, but the point is - she knows NOTHING about this person unless she's met her. I would hate to send someone a note saying "please help this girl" only to hear later she went through rush and was a total freakazoid.

The OP was told to go to family, friends etc - she came back 2 days later and said she had "exhausted all her personal resources." Take that as you will.

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by 33girl

The OP was told to go to family, friends etc - she came back 2 days later and said she had "exhausted all her personal resources." Take that as you will.

As I've said before, I'm not interested in working on internet recs, BUT we don't know that she hadn't exhausted those options even before she started the thread.

I think it would be possible for someone who had more of the milk of human kindness than I do, to find out the PNM's name and hometown, go to the sister search database on your website if you've got one, and email a couple of people who come up to see if they know the OP.

They may be women whom the OP has no idea were Greek or whom she hadn't had a chance to ask.

But as long as Nancy Newbie isn't an idiot, it could be done and perhaps done well. And if Nancy Newbie is an idiot, then it doesn't really matter what the rest of us think anyway; she's recommending questionable women for your org right now!

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AlphaGamUGAAlum

I think it would be possible for someone who had more of the milk of human kindness than I do, to find out the PNM's name and hometown, go to the sister search database on your website if you've got one, and email a couple of people who come up to see if they know the OP.

I have my name on the list for helping to find Recs.

I had a PNM send me a very nice PM asking for me to help her find recs, because she lived in one state and was going to school in a different state. I got in contact with BOTH the Alum group near her hometown AND near the school she was going to. I got someone from each group and gave her their contact info and her info to them. She started this process in May.

This is the way to use GC to get recs. NOT posting a list and hoping people come to you. NOT waiting until a few weeks before.

[cuteASAbug]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

This is the way to use GC to get recs. NOT posting a list and hoping people come to you. NOT waiting until a few weeks before.

I get the feeling that katestar may be the first person in her family to go greek and did not know this. No one in my family is greek and if my school had required recs, I may have done the same thing. If my cousin decides to rush next year, I can warn her against it.

[Buttonz]

Originally Posted by cuteASAbug

I get the feeling that katestar may be the first person in her family to go greek and did not know this. No one in my family is greek and if my school had required recs, I may have done the same thing. If my cousin decides to rush next year, I can warn her against it.

Got to agree with you. If my school required recs I might have gone this way at all. Before I went Greek I knew no one at all that was Greek. Not a single person.

If my sister decided to rush and went to a school that required recs, I would have advised her (and helped her) get her recs in the right way, but before me and my sisters and the rest of my Greek friends she knew no one who was Greek as well. If I never went Greek she wouldn't know a single Greek as well.

[katestar]

Just a little bit for y'all to know;
Yes, I am the first in my family to rush.
I have been looking on here for a while. I had never even heard of a Rec or its importance untill I found this site. I did not use "2 days" to exhaust my personal resources,I have been working on that quite longer. Yes,it is close to rush,that is why I am using GC,my last resort. No, this thread was not my only attempt. I sent nice pms also and got a few responses.Therefore I resulted to this thread. I have offered to contact the ladies helping me however they prefer and I can verify all of the information I provide them with.I realize that using GC isnt the best source but when you are totally unexperienced with Rush and done as much as you can,it starts to look like a good option.Also,I am sorry that I don't use the apostrophe key for my contractions when typing.I have learned alot through here. Im unsure about some sororities now because of the way their proud members have acted.
In closing,thank you to the helpful people on here.