whats your relationship with your big/little?

[Kevin]

My little was not worthy. It was tough, but I decided he and my organization weren't made for each other.

[rufio]

my big is my best friend. granted i've known him for a decade. and me and my little are pretty close. he's a good kid

[KyleMcGuire1983]

Originally Posted by Kevin

My little was not worthy. It was tough, but I decided he and my organization weren't made for each other.

That's a crappy feeling.

My big bro and I were close when he was in college, he was the Commander (Prez) when I pledged, but after he graduated he distanced himself from the chapter on a social level. He became our Chapter Advisor and works as an engineer MUCH more serious and professional than his pledge bro (who graduated with him) who run around our house 4 days a week drinking. I know my big still loves the house, he just feels awkward hanging out with us. We go to dinner about twice a month and still talk all the time, but it's not the same as it was when he was undergrad. Maybe when I go alum that will change.

My first lil bro just finished freshman year and is totally a freshman. He's unsure of himself a lot and turns to me for older brother style advice, which is awesome because that's what big/lil is all about. He's serving on exec with me (we're the only big/lil set on exec right now lol) as Social Chairman. He's a good kid.

My second lil bro...I wouldn't say he's not worthy because the active chapter thought the guy was great. He decided to leave school and join the Air Force. He was big on sacrifice and service and felt he couldn't live with himself unless he joined the armed forces and sacrificed for the country. I still talk to him and told him that while he's not my lil bro anymore he's still my friend and I'd be more than happy to recommend him for a bid if he decided to go back to college somewhere.

[rufio]

Originally Posted by KyleMcGuire1983

(we're the only big/lil set on exec right now lol)

me, my big, and my little are all serving on exec right now as well. actually i think everyone in my family tree has served on exec. POWER TREE.

[SigKapCoug]

My big and I never ended up close, which is a pity, because she was my rush crush (and vice versa I think). We're both busy people and didn't have a lot of time to hang out, i think.

I adore my littles (I have two, plus an adopted one). We have a pretty good relationship. One had to leave the chapter, one is out of school for the semester, and my adopted one better come back in fall or there will be some serious beatings! I still wish i could be a more-involved big, but in my old major (nursing) I was very busy with class. I've changed majors, so hopefully I have more time to spend with them now.

[Munchkin03]

My big became a born-again Christian and denounced Greek life and our university soon after graduation.

My little deactivated.

I am closer to other women in my chapter now, who should have been my big/little! But, our chapter didn't push that as much as others did...

[KyleMcGuire1983]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

My big became a born-again Christian and denounced Greek life and our university soon after graduation.

My little deactivated.

I am closer to other women in my chapter now, who should have been my big/little! But, our chapter didn't push that as much as others did...

That's a shame. One of my pledge brothers went out with an AOII for over a year who was a born-again Christian and she wound up graduating and embracing her sorority and university.

I suppose it all depends on how much decadence one can handle eh?

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by KyleMcGuire1983

That's a crappy feeling.

Not at all. I did the right thing.

He rushed after being commanded to do so by his Alpha Xi Delta girlfriend. He never really became a part of his pledge class. He was a little older -- and he was a high level worker on Democratic campaigns at the time. i guess he figured he was better than us. His social skills were also lacking.

How he got booted was one of my better moments actually I could tell you about that, but I'd have to kill you.

[kathykd2005]

My first big sister actually left the sorority, and I've never been quite sure why--so don't feel bad about not having a good relationship with yours. However, my adopted big (who also happened to be in the same "family") is wonderful. She has always been fun and driven, which I admire. I was very lucky that she and her big sister took it upon themselves to keep me in their little group. My little and I have a unique relationship. She was one of my bridesmaids at my wedding, she became president of the chapter, and she is just overall a wonderful person, also someone I admire. I try to keep in touch as much as I can. My grandlils are both awesome and completely different, which is great. Now, my great grandlils are now sophomores in college (I've been graduated for two years), but I still keep in contact with them, due to the wonders of facebook and myspace. I hope to keep in contact, at least, with the "family line."

[Buttonz]

My big and I didn't get along until I was active for about 7-8 months. I knew I was getting her (there were two girls up for littles, and everyone know my pledge sister would get who she got as her big) and was dreading it, plus she wanted to wait to take a girl that wanted to pledge but couldn't afford it so she was waiting till the next fall.

Well, she took her the following fall and was a much better big to this girl (let's call her A). A wound up dropping her letters after a week because she just got engaged and "didn't have a need for a sorority anymore" (this is what A told me). After that we wound up becoming a lot closer and getting along better.

As for my little, we were close until I transfered and then she stopped returning my calls and stuff.

My adopted bigs (both of them are in my family, one my great grand big and one my great great grand big) I'm still pretty close with one, and speak to the other, just not as often as I'd like.

[Ilaria Ame]

my big and i get along very well. she's not my best friend or anything, but we share a similar sense of humor and connect over many aspects of our lives.

[tld221]

my "big" (using the NPC/NIC/IFC terms here) and i talk every day, almost anyway. we get along fine. we're a lot alike as far as career goals and maturity levels - she's a good 7, 8 years older than me and i'm kinda old for my age so it balances out.

now my "little," well, we arent that close at all. she's always in school or at work and she lives quite far from me. and on the off chance that we are together, we have nothing to talk about aside from school and work. its not a bad relationship per se, but not the ideal.

[KyleMcGuire1983]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Not at all. I did the right thing.

He rushed after being commanded to do so by his Alpha Xi Delta girlfriend. He never really became a part of his pledge class. He was a little older -- and he was a high level worker on Democratic campaigns at the time. i guess he figured he was better than us. His social skills were also lacking.

How he got booted was one of my better moments actually I could tell you about that, but I'd have to kill you.

or you could tell me in a PM!

[Eirbear]

My Big and I are super close. She was my first choice and, she told me just before I got my own Little that she wasn't going to accept a call for anyone else but me from my NM class. She was one of the first sisters I grew really close to, and she was already acting in the role of "Big" for a long time before it was official. She just graduated this past spring, and I'm already having a hard time picturing life without her next year.

Both my Littles and I are really close too, but I have different relationships with both of them, because we grew close differently. My first Little, we grew close as she went through Recruitment and then even closer after she pledged and, since I got her three or four months before my second Little, we seem to be more comfortable to talk about virtually anything. My second Little and I grew close during the fall and marching band season (we were in the same section), and I tried really hard to get her to go through Recruitment during fall formal. Even though I knew her pretty well a month or so before I got close to my first Little, and we CAN talk about a lot of stuff, sometimes the conversation is a little more forced. But I love hanging out with both of my Littles and they both get along fairly well.

On the bright side, the branch of my family is really close. My grandbig has always been almost a second Big to me, my Big's second Little and I are insanely attatched at the hip (we tend to end up plotting together, and sometimes our Big has trouble keeping up with the two of us). There are a lot of Bigs/Littles, branches, and families in my chapter that aren't as close, so I count myself incredibly lucky.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

My sis-mom left the semester after I was initiated. Fortunately she is still able to be around sometimes, so I get to see her. She was one of the reasons I decided to stick with Recruitment. My first sis-daughter was a spring class girl. She is actually in my class and is only a few months younger than me. I had several classes with her because we are both in the honors program and I was pretty sure she would not want to be in a sorority at all, but she was still invited to the COB parties and ended up taking the bid we offered. She is our New Member Coordinator now and is doing a fab job. We are not alike at all and I guess I would not say we are super close or anything but we always just get along so well. And she is very nice to her mommy. My other one came in this fall. I actually barely remembered her from the parties but there were not many members that could take a sis-daughter at that time and I could, and her top two choices were sisters that I shared some personality traits with, so she was assigned to me. I guess we are not terribly close either, but we are a lot alike in some ways and get along really well. She is very close with her pledge class which is so great. When I first met her when she was pledged she walked in with her heels on and everyone laughed. I am 5 feet 4 inches and was wearing flats. She is about 5 feet 10 inches and was wearing heels. I am sure we looked really funny. My first sister-daughter is also taller than me, and so is my mom. My first daughter took a daughter in the fall pledge class, so I am already a grandma and SHE is taller than me too. My whole family dwarfs me.