Should I stay or go?

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If you have made a fair effort to get to know everyone and you aren't enjoying your membership, quit. If this is an NPC sorority, do know that you may not join another NPC sorority as you have been initiated.

A lot of folks get frustrated after initation b/c they feel there is a let down. During the new member period, you are spoiled with gifts and attention. This tapers off once you are initiated and some feel resentful or unwanted. It is a normal feeling, but you have to resolve with yourself: have I made an effort to be friendly, outgoing and interact with the other sisters? Can I make the first move?

Feeling unwanted at chapter events can also become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you attend events with a sour look on your face or a bad attitude, people feed off those vibes and will be less likely to approach you.

You also have to consider that being a part of a group involves a certain level of conformity and adopting certain norms. If the members of your chapter are leaning more toward homogenous and not quite so diverse, they might be a little unsure of how to handle a more punk-style member.

A lot of people will tell you to stick it out, make an effort, get involved in the leadership, remember that a sorority is a lifetime committment, etc. I appreciate all of those sentiments and agree, to a certain extent. The reality is that a small percentage of women stay involved in their sororities following graduation. The reality is also that college is a period of self-exploration and if sorority membership isn't something enjoyable for you, I honestly don't see the big deal in dropping out of it. A sorority is a committment of time and money. If you're not getting much out of it, you don't like the members, their policies or the way you perceive yourself to be treated, and you have made the effort, there's little point in being a member.