Depledging (HELP!!)

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by TSteven

Why not ask for early alum status?

I wonder the same thing.

Skiing sister, your promotion of how you undermined your group's rules hurts how other people will view your sisterhood. You may not care because you got what you wanted and are able to continue to do what you want today. But it doesn't really reflect well on you or your group.

[SkiingSister]

Actually, that is what I got, alum status starting my second semester of my junior year. You must be a full time student to be a in sorority at my campus. I lied, said that I was taking half load, locked my academic records so my chapter couldn't check, took a full load. You can't just ask for alum status as junior. Alum status is only granted to those taking less than full load or 5th year seniors. My chapter was hard up for money and wouldn't let anyone even go temporary sleeper status for a semester or that would have been an option.

As for how this reflects on my sisterhood, my group, etc...that is very loaded. I feel that what I did compares nothing to what I saw happen in that house and heard after I left. How about the girl who gave another a black eye at a dating party for talking trash about her? I will stop there.

I have had other friends from other groups tell similar stories of what they endured at their chapters. They didn't do what I did but they do not pass judgment on me.

You know, I see a lot about how wonderful greek life is on this board, and it is. Then someone briefly says that someone quit and that is it. I have yet to see anyone fully address why someone would want to deactivate, it's causes and prevention. A lot of time it is "oh, she didn't have the funds" or "greek life wasn't her". Well, I know a lot of people who used the funds as an excuse. What are GLOs doing to retain their members? How do we prevent the crap that happened in my house and others. I know that mine is NOT alone. We can only say "oh, our ritual is so good, it will heal it all" or my personal favorite, "let's shut the chapter down then recolonize!"

Since my college days, I have moved on to a very active life and received a few awards for my involvement in various organizations. Just last night someone said "She knows everyone." as I was hugged by several friends while art gallery hopping. Oh, and yah, a lot of those people know that I was in a house. They think highly of my house. So, no, it hasn't reflected badly on my house. If anything, my house should be glad that I did what I did instead of truly deactivating.