Are You Too Good For These Men?

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

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Oh, I didn't see this one...sorry ladies, but I'd date him. LOL

[DSTdimepiece]

I'm not too good just genuinely not interested. No one had that something that makes you interested. I know I couldn't fool with the clubster. I'm not too sure I could deal with the airline guy either. If you are like that, you don't need to use things to your advantage.

@LG's conversation, I've been thinking about that a lot lately. It just seems so easy for people to find relationships and ultimately get married. I guess I missed that class in the years of schooling LOL.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by delph998

Lastly, DSTChaos where do you live because I'm not surrounded by those "plethora of men" you were referring to!

Which would explain why some of you feel you can't be so judgmental and discerning.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athletic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

Good point.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Good point.

Unfortunately, many women haven't mastered the art of DATING. That's why they go into these casual interactions with unmet expectations.

Men tend to know exactly what dating means:
We hang out and are cool with each other and THEN see where it goes from there. No real rules unless we articulate them later on when and IF we decide to do a RELATIONSHIP. Until then, don't get too comfortable or excited because not many of my friends and basically none of my family will be told about you. That's because you aren't the only person I am DATING.

[UrbanizdSkillz]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Unfortunately, many women haven't mastered the art of DATING. That's why they go into these casual interactions with unmet expectations.

Men tend to know exactly what dating means:
We hang out and are cool with each other and THEN see where it goes from there. No real rules unless we articulate them later on when and IF we decide to do a RELATIONSHIP. Until then, don't get too comfortable or excited because not many of my friends and basically none of my family will be told about you. That's because you aren't the only person I am DATING.

Exactly. Can you submit that one to Webster's? I think its a more appropriate definition

ETA: (LOL at your signature! "I went to go get my rollerskates and right there on the form it said 'Have you told your parents that you're gay?'")

[NiaX]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Unfortunately, many women haven't mastered the art of DATING. That's why they go into these casual interactions with unmet expectations.

Men tend to know exactly what dating means:
We hang out and are cool with each other and THEN see where it goes from there. No real rules unless we articulate them later on when and IF we decide to do a RELATIONSHIP. Until then, don't get too comfortable or excited because not many of my friends and basically none of my family will be told about you. That's because you aren't the only person I am DATING.

Isn't this the equivalent to what folks used to call "talking"? eg: Jessica has been talking to Ramon since Jan. but also has been talking to Bob since Nov.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by UrbanizdSkillz

Exactly. Can you submit that one to Webster's? I think its a more appropriate definition

ETA: (LOL at your signature! "I went to go get my rollerskates and right there on the form it said 'Have you told your parents that you're gay?'")

I will contact Webster's immediately.

I cracked up!!! They are sooo stooopid. LOL.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by NiaX

Isn't this the equivalent to what folks you to call "talking"? eg: Jessica has been talking to Ramon since Jan. but also has been talking to Bob since Nov.

I guess.

Even then people got confused between "talking" and a "relationship" with high expectations.

[BlueReign]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well sweetie, it's cause' you look like one. Standing there, lookin' like ya' gonna to shoot someone. (what is that sticking out of your back pocket?)

Soror, I don't know what's funnier? Your statement or the little thugged-out smiley. Haha!

Now, he does look like someone I know (and probably would have dated some years ago). This is a very good thread and to answer the original question:

Hell yeah. for so many different reasons.

[delph998]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Which would explain why some of you feel you can't be so judgmental and discerning.

You have a point.

To respond to this column, none of these guys appeal to me. I feel like there should be some physical attraction and there are no sparks for me. Additionally, I'm not about to date a dude that looks like a thug or who clubs all of the time. So I guess I fit into the same category as the majority of women that they've encountered before.

I get play all of the time from guys here, but most of the men are not on the same level as me. I'm not needy for a guy so I thank them for the interest and push on. So many men have games and I don't have time for that. I've been down that road before (remember the Too Much Baggage Thread? ). After Mr. Too Much Baggage, which was three years ago, I've decided that I will not settle any more. So while my friends are getting excited about the Konclave being here this summer for the sake of seeing men, I don't share that same excitment because when it's my time, it's my time. God knows how to work His magic.

[FeeFee]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

DITTO to everything you posted ^^.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

He might be handsome. Can't really tell based on the pic. I only date men who aren't stuck with the "professional look" 24/7.

He doesn't look like a thug to me at all. I know thugs who wear suits. However, my men have to wear Timbs, tennis shoes, and athetlic gear on their off days. Save the slacks and suits for when they are at work or going to a casual dress venue.

Now if he ACTS like a thug, I wouldn't even kick it with him. Or if he has jacked up teeth (including diamond or gold teeth) because good teeth and overall hygiene are some of my requirements.

But based on his description, I'd "date" him. However "date" to me isn't anything serious. Whether I'd COMMIT to him would depend on his other qualities that weren't discussed and whether he's someone I'd care enough to mention to my mother.

I agree as well. I can't stand a Prep all the time. I need you to know how to get around the hood if needed My husband never was the preppy polished type nor the thug, he's rough around edges but passed the cucumber test.

Cucumber test, do you know the difference between a cucumber and a zuchinni (sp?)
Yall thought the cucmber test was something else

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by Wonderful1908

I can't stand a Prep all the time.

See, I can. I guess I'm just old school that way. I don't mind jeans and a Harvard sweatshirt on the weekend but the clothes need to fit and he better have some khaki shorts. Doc’s and Tim’s are OUT.