Legacy

ForeverRoses · #1 05-14-2007, 10:10 AM

I think going through rush as a legacy can be VERY unnerving. My sister graduated the year before I started college, but her little sisters as well as lots of friends were still active and her big was an alumna in town. So when I rushed as a freshman I was getting ALOT of pressure- nightly phone calls from my sister and her big to "see how things were going" lots of "advice" during rush parties on things to say to the girls rushing me (usually from my sisters friends who would "stop by" to talk). I ended up dropping out of rush the day of prefs and I let my answering machine take all the calls.

Luckily it's not a big deal to rush as a sophmore, so when I did decide to re-rush, I decided not to tell anyone. I even left the legacy line blank on the application. I did like my sister's chapter, but I wanted to make sure they liked me for me, not because of who my sister is. I ended up joining a house other than my sister's and I knew I made the right decision the moment I walked up to the house with my bid.

AOII Angel · #2 05-14-2007, 10:20 AM

Forever Roses...that was a really good idea. I know family members don't mean to put pressure on legacies, but their happiness with the sorority doesn't always translate to the next family member. I didn't really have that option. What I finally decided was that why a chapter wanted me was immaterial. Did they know me by the end of rush? NO. You can find a friends in any group of women, and you bond with the others over your ritual and traditions. I think it's nice that some are able to recognize a feeling of belonging with a certain group, but I think a lot of women don't. I also think this is true considering how many people in this country don't get the first choice on their bid lists. They find a way to fit in and be happy.

ForeverRoses · #3 05-14-2007, 01:24 PM

I have wondered if I would have chosen my sister's org if it wasn't her org. I think part of it is when you are 18-19 years old and trying to figure out who you are, being constantly compaired to someone you are not can be very difficult.
Now if I had had a daughter (I have three boys) I would have loved for her to be an AOII, but I hope I would understand if she chose something else.